Not Under My Roof! Well..maybe....

by Englishman 6 Replies latest jw friends

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  Englishman

  I've never had a problem with any of my kids bunking in with their girlfriends/boyfriends whenever they come to stay. To be frank, I don't even notice it. They've only done it when they've been in long-term relationships. None of them ever brought home a "one night stand", which is something that would really upset me if it happened.

  I'm curious that this surprises some folks, not just in the JW/ex JW community either. My Mum is totally outraged by this, however, she is a dub and in her 80's too, so I guess it's not too surprising. The "Not under my roof" should be my philosophy according to her.

  It doesn't bother me one whit if my kids opt to share a bed with a partner in my home. I've never seen God as someone who is preoccupied with what humans do with their genitalia. Maybe I'm just beyond all moral hope. (I must confess, though, that I don't want them right next door to my bedroom.)

  Englishman.
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  frenchbabyface

  I don't care ... (Tony's bredroom, Tony's business, Tony's girlfriend)
  But still ... non one night girlfriend !!! My home is not a motel for this purpose ...
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  Xena

  I would prefer my daughter have sex at home in her room than in the backseat of a car and I would hope that I will raise her in such a manner that she will wait until she is in a committed relationship until she has sex (hey a parent can hope). I do plan on getting her on birthcontrol as soon as she shows any signs of wanting to have sex.

  My daughter asked me the other day at what age people should have sex, a friend of mine was with me at the time and blurted out "When you are married". She was shocked when I corrected her and said "No, it's when you are in a mature relationship with someone you love". I am not going to lie to my daughter, she isn't stupid. And I am not going to chain her to a morality that I no longer believe.

  Does that make me a bad parent? Guess it all depends on whom you ask.....
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  stillajwexelder

  makes you a good parent xena IMHO -it is my attitude also -- though my wife disagrees being an active JW
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  Vivamus

  Not in My Mum's home! Eeeeeew, I can't get it on, with my mum next door. No way, LOL.

  Now, I could just sleep with my partner at my mum's house, but sleeping is all that would happen.... ewwwww.

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  Blue Bubblegum Girl
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  blondie

  I do plan on getting her on birthcontrol as soon as she shows any signs of wanting to have sex.

  Don't forget that birth control pills, diaphragms, etc., do not protect from AIDS and other STDs. Be sure to talk to her about having her partners use condoms and any other ways to protect. Many young people don't realize that oral/anal activity is real sex and that protection should be used.

  http://www.niaid.nih.gov/factsheets/hivinf.htm

  http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/dhap.htm

  PREVENTION

  Because no vaccine for HIV is available, the only way to prevent infection by the virus is to avoid behaviors that put a person at risk of infection, such as sharing needles and having unprotected sex.

  Many people infected with HIV have no symptoms. Therefore, there is no way of knowing with certainty whether a sexual partner is infected unless he or she has repeatedly tested negative for the virus and has not engaged in any risky behavior.

  People should either abstain from having sex or use male latex condoms or female polyurethane condoms, which may offer partial protection, during oral, anal, or vaginal sex. Only water-based lubricants should be used with male latex condoms.

  Although some laboratory evidence shows that spermicides can kill HIV, researchers have not found that these products can prevent a person from getting HIV.
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  Thirdson

  E'man,

  I couldn't stay at my parent's house with my girlfriend even though we asked for separate rooms. After saying we'd stay elsewhere they offered to let me stay as long as the girlfriend slept at another location. It soured our relationship (parents and me), we only saw them for a few hours during our 2 week visit and has meant they barely know my wife. (They didn't attend our wedding either...another story) When we visit the UK again (likely in 2004) Mrs Thirdson and I will pay for a hotel room.

  Thirdson