My Grandmother's Funeral and Final Comments.

by Yizuman 8 Replies latest jw friends

  • Yizuman
    Yizuman

    Just in case some may have missed my previous topic.....

    From previous topic...

    http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/64232/1.ashx


    Well, it's finally over....

    The funeral went well, except for dad who has phenmonia and is not well, so it kinda sucks to be ill during a funeral but he was there nonetheless, Aunt Barabra was very worried when he coughs and his breathing seemed ragged somewhat. She's gonna make sure he sees a doctor real soon.

    The Pastor presiding the funeral was the same Pastor who resided my grandfather's (Banko Roy) funeral 22 1/2 years ago. Geez, where did all that time go? I have a feeling he might reside my dad's funeral since he's not been too good in health as of late.

    I just found out about a joke that dad had with Banko that ever since she nearly got electricuted to death at the phone operator booth in her teens, he said the reason why Banko had lived this long was because she was always "charged up"!

    It's been the hardest day knowing that this is the last day we'll ever see Banko and it'll be a long time coming before we each ever see her again.

    It had been an honor to pallbear for her and laid her to her final resting place. We each took a flower that was laid on her coffin and I put mine into my mom's flower pot just a few tombstones from Banko's left side. I said hello to my mom and stated that she's not alone now since her "mother" as she called her is keeping her company. They had always enjoyed each other's company. They loved shopping and chatting together. My mother passed away Nov 28, 1993.

    After we laid her to rest and left. We went to a nearby church to have a meal and chatted about the good times and memories about Banko. I watched the little children played together at the playset at the corner of the dining room and wondered how much they really knew and understood about Banko and I was sad that they may really never truely know Banko for who she truely was and not some vague memory of her.

    I noticed that there's some entries on Banko's online guestbook and thought you'd might like to read it....

    http://www.legacy.com/Guestbook.asp?Page=Guestbook&PersonID=1745661

    I'll email my sister and Aunt to make sure that they also see it, if they haven't.

    Here's also one obit from the local newspaper where I used to live (Noblesville, IN)...

    http://www.thenoblesvilleledger.com/articles/8/022295-9038-098.html

    This is gonna be a long and hard day and prolly the same tomorrow as well. I got the day off tomorrow to rest and get my energy back before I return to work Monday.

    Thanks again for all of your kind words!

    Yiz (Neal)

  • Country_Woman
    Country_Woman

    (((Yiz)))

    My condolence, seems that she was a remarkable woman.

    Keep her remembrance firmly in your heart....

    Branda

  • Huxley
    Huxley

    My thoughts are with you. May you have peace during this difficult time...

    Huxley

  • Special K
    Special K

    Hi Neal..

    Thanks for posting how your "funeral day" for your Grandma Banko went..

    Sounds like she will rest peacefully knowing you escorted her there..

    Rest easy.. and give your mind time to mourn..

    she lead a long life..

    sincerely

    Special K

  • Sentinel
    Sentinel

    Saying good-bye is never easy. Death is so final to what we know "here" on this earth. Grief is very private and very individual. Your mind will be recalling many things and will gradually settle down to a peaceful remembrance of someone special.

    The memories you carry in your heart will keep her alive forever.

    Take care of yourself.

    /<

  • crinklestein
    crinklestein

    That's what a funeral is all about: not just grieving but rejoicing in that persons' life. It's not just a day of grief but of joy. Remembering everything they did while alive. It's a testimony to their life and it can, depending on the person and their life, be either a golden or a thorny crown. I'm happy that everything in Banko's life is a golden crown for her to wear and I hope she is wearing it proudly and humbly. That's what I would want my funeral to be like: Everyone sitting around and remembering everything I did and said and telling funny stories about me. Making everyone else that didn't know me as well as others know me...making them know me even better by the end of the day and walk away feeling better about themselves because they now know me better and feel enriched and blessed by it. From the sounds of it this is exactly what Banko's funeral was and I'm sure she was very pleased with it. It was a testimony to her life and that's what it's all about.

  • wednesday
    wednesday

    Yiz,

    So sorry about your ganrdmother. Funerals are often difficult.

    I have been wondering how u are. Where are u living now? Hope u are stilll not in that mission. I may have missed a few posts regarding your living conditions, could u ctch me up?

    weds

  • ScoobySnax
    ScoobySnax

    Sorry to hear Yiz.

    Just got back from my Grandfathers funeral on Friday, so I know how you must be feeling.

    Take Care

    Scoob

  • Yizuman
    Yizuman

    Thanks for the kind words yet again

    Wednesday,

    Yes I am still at the mission. I had just aquired a car two weeks ago which was my first goal, now I am looking into an apt. I hope to find one real soon before the "big" snow dump occurs. It's a bit of a drive to work from where I am staying and slick roads is something I'd much rather avoid.

    Wish me luck in my apt. hunt.

    Someone signed the online Guest Book that I know had to come from a member of JWD and I would like to thank that person for signing it. Everyone else is welcome to it....

    http://www.legacy.com/Guestbook.asp?Page=Guestbook&PersonID=1745661

    If for some reason it doesn't come up, look for Pauline M. Scott and she'll come up as her life story first followed by a guest book link at the bottom for you to click on and sign it.

    Again, thanks for the kind words everyone!

    Yiz

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