Welcome SBlackwell.
Many brothers had the 'gift' of speaking. They could draw you in with their personalized talking style making it feel that they are just talking to you.
There were brothers I really grew to like during my formative years from 12 to 18. Brothers in arms....... that sort of thing.
But like a number of JW characteristics it was more an act or set piece. When the first insurmountable doubts began to show up in your speech or ideas or review of known history....... these buddies..... pillars of love and encouragement...... just melted away.
My wife and I pioneered where the need was great for three years. I gave talks all over the circuit, held three congregation positions (No Elders in those days).
We even helped finance a proper KH instead of the store front KH.
When we decided to leave and get some job training that was the last we heard from the congregation. It was as if we no longer existed.
Well we did just fine on our own but what we really learned was that there was no acceptance for any out of the box thinking.
My close friend for three years, the presiding minister of the congregation, went silent after we left. The time we provided a loan to save his home, the talks I gave like 30 in the first year alone, using my own dimes to make a 100 mile round trip to give a public talk. The 100 hours of service per month I gave, the bible studies and literature placement that kept the Circuit servant off his back was all for nothing relationship wise.
This was the JW way to treat ex JW's. People like us that just stopped believing, went our own way. It never mattered that the original belief system of the JW had to be subjected to constant new light.
It was about obedience not faith.