Thanks again for everyone's advice, last night I did the dishes and cleaned the bedroom went to the gym for like an hour (which no one actually did anything). It was kinda nice last night because she didn't know I had set the VCR to tape her soap opera and she was thrilled that I did it for her. This morning wasn't too bad either mainly because I set up all my clothes for the morning that way I could get dressed and get everything done before she'd even need to be in the bathroom. She started a bit when I tried to move past her to get some socks (why is it this is always a thing I forget about?) I just told her to chill out I was just getting socks and it was cool. I dropped her off this morning and she said thank you which was nice. A simple thank you can make someone feel a million times better which is cool, we still need to talk but I'm gonna try to put that in the weekend that way we have a full day. Thanks again you guys are very nice and the advice was very needed.
Thank you guys things were a bit better today....
by Tuesday 2 Replies latest jw friends
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cruzanheart
(((((Tuesday and wife))))) The first year of marriage really is the hardest, because you're getting used to each other and trying to work together. Marriage, like a good job or a good friendship, will always require work, but as the years go by you will see your relationship and your love for each other grow and deepen to the point that you can see her throwing up from the flu and still think she's beautiful (well, maybe not at that particular instant in time, but you know what I mean). Her little habits may still irritate you, but instead of arguing you'll either grumble under your breath or roll your eyes.
I really highly recommend marriage counseling for both of you, and possibly therapy for your wife to help her over the miscarriage. I've had two miscarriages and they are absolutely devastating. Big Tex was really supportive and wonderful (we'd been married about 11 years at that point) and patient, but I was depressed for a long time, until I had Jackson. (Jennie was our first, then I had the miscarriages, and then I had Jackson.) Hormones are a nasty, evil thing sometimes! Of course, now the poor guy has to put up with me starting menopause and Jennie is headed for puberty! Pray for him.
I wish you both the very best.
Nina
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I was at the park the other day with my daughter and ran into a lady who works at the grocery store. She was telling me that finally after 4 years, she can say she has a happy marriage. She said it is WORK WORK WORK. Her inlaws have been helping them. The wife now is able to sit thru sports games, her mother in law advising.........isn't it better he's here, he could be a drinker, a bar hopper, etc....watch the game and eat together. She said finally after SHE started doing things he liked, he now does things she likes........like she wants to go out every Friday night for dinner (she, hubby and son). So now he does that........
The point is.........they have marriage "coaches" that they both love and trust and don't feel that the parents are interfering.......and they are both doing the WORK. One person had to start, though, and he followed her lead. Now they are happy. After 4 years. Not 8 months.