desib77,
Don't feel badly if you are somewhat disoriented after leaving a high-control group. The freedom to think, feel, investigate and yes to not have all the answers, is not unusual. I did what most do, immediately launched into a "search for truth" thinking that the perfect religion was out there. After three years of going to every denomination of Christianity I could find, I gave up on that animal and started looking around the barnyard. What I found is that there are many attractive alternatives to Xiantity out there, the trouble is they are not so inclined to be as inclusive as I had hoped. Buddhism tends not to be the asertive dicipline that the other religions are, but it seems to focus only on the betterment of the individual, only very slightly on the collective whole of humanity. All the rest seemed to be so self centered claiming to be the "only path to salvation" for want of a better term. I gave up, concluded that religion was a waste of my time and moved on with life. It took over a decade of being basically agnostic and not caring a hoot before I was able to set aside my notions (both acquired and preconcieved) about religion and was able to accept a new paradigm.
I wish you well in your search and urge you to keep an open mind and heart. Whether or not you ever settle on one religion or not, tolerance will get you through the trip.
carmel