Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

desib77

Just want to vent.......Hope you don't mind.

My mother (JW) and her husband (also JW) had asked to take my husband and I out to eat for our anniversary. Since she really doesn't come to visit much (even though I'm only an hour away) I thought it would be nice.................A couple of nights ago she called me to tell me that instead of taking us out to eat that weekend they had decided to take the C.O. out to eat.......................Now, tell me does that seem right to you? I really could care less about the going out but was kind of looking forward to the visit. (I had always been close to my mother in the past) She has only visited once in the 7 months that I've lived here and I'm really not far. It just gets so frustrating to me since I walk on eggshells around her trying not to say the wrong thing just to keep communication open and she can't even put a little bit of effort in to it......Don't get me wrong, she loves to witness to me and my husband. It just so happened he answered the phone the other night and since she knows that I try to keep her away from him as much as possible she took the opportunity to give him his "personal invitation" to the memorial............how sneaky....calling to tell us that she cares more about the C.O. than me and then in the same breath trying to get us to the memorial.................arghhhhhhhhhhh! It is just so frustrating. I feel like I put all the effort in to holding back so as not to offend her and she puts no effort whatsoever in to anything but shoving her beliefs down my throat.........:(

Thanks for letting me rant....

Desi

kat2u

I am sorry! I know how you feel as Im going thru alot of Pressure from my mother and daughter.Hang In There!!!!!

Stefanie

Thats just terrible. I used to be that kind of daughter to my mom. I was always preaching to her, and avoided association with her, though it wasnt me but my exs choice. But I was in subjection and always listended to him. I hope your mom sees the thruth about the troof and treats you better.

Its experiences like this that prove they are a cult.

Hugs and best wishes to you......

Sassy

aahhh man.. that was rude. I would be offended..

I think I would have been tempted to remind her of the scripture of letting your Yes mean Yes..

but I understand about walking on eggshells.. I am doing the same with my mom.. I wrote her an email the other day and have been nervously watching my mailbox ever since..

blondie

*** w89 9/15 29 Who Can Be God's Friend? ***
So we should be men, women, and young persons who keep our word. Let us not make promises to others and then leave them in the lurch when more appealing opportunities open up to us.

Psalm 15:4 ***

He has sworn to what is bad [for himself], and yet he does not alter.

calamityjane

Sorry to hear this Desib. They are so shallow.

It reminds me of one painful incident with my parents. We would always get an anniversary gift from my parents, every year and we would always reciprocate on their anniversary. It got to the point, that they knew that we were not going to go back to the meetings, association with them was nil, except for when they would pick up and drop off our kids for a visit, that I thought if they chose to send us an anniversary gift that year, I would not accept it.

Well that day came, the gift was delivered to me at work. I'm telling you, I was almost physically sick, that I was put into that situation, because I wanted to stand my ground.

I went directly to their house after work and returned the gift along with a letter to them explaining that I didn't like how they were treating me, blah blah blah, and that if they couldn't accept me for leaving the religion, then I didn't want anything from them in return. It was a low point in my life. But I survived.

love

cj

Greenpalmtreestillmine

I'm so sorry Desi. The most hurt in our lives comes from those we love.

I hope you and your husband go out and have a great anniversary just the two of you, free from any fear of breaking eggshells.

It's good to be free and to be with those who love us for who we are and not for who they want us to be.

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!

Sabrina

Sentinel

Love is a very powerful emotion. It is also a controlling emotion when we try to manipulate the people we care about. Why is it that we all just can't be what we feel like being, insteading of acting out "parts" just to be accepted or to belong?

I truly believe that many of our family members who are still "in" make the choices they do, not because they really want to, but because they feel compelled to do so by a dogmatic belief system. In other ways, I think some folks use religion of any sort as an excuse to remove themselves from any responsibility for truly loving their own family or other people. It's a cop out. They behave this way, and there is no accountability. Those of us on the receiving end have no choice but to accept this type of behavior and move on. These people have not truly learned how to love themselves and that is very sad.

We can say we love someone, and at the same time do things that are so hurtful and painful. When we decide to "love", we take a great chance. It opens us up to all sorts of human experience. I wouldn't have it any other way. Love hurts so good.

/<

Stefanie

I truly believe that many of our family members who are still "in" make the choices they do, not because they really want to, but because they feel compelled to do so by a dogmatic belief system. In other ways, I think some folks use religion of any sort as an excuse to remove themselves from any responsibility for truly loving their own family or other people.

Thank you, you took the words out of my mind....

HMMM didnt the pharaseess use the religion as an excuse for not helping their parents? Guess the apple dont fall far from the tree...

cruzanheart

Ouch. I'm really sorry to hear that, Desi! I would've felt pretty upset about it too. However, take a deep, cleansing breath, punch out a wall if you need to, and then pack up for Dallas! ONE MORE DAY!!!

And Happy Anniversary!

Love,

Nina

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

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