Dating While a Witness

by prophecor 3 Replies latest jw friends

  • prophecor
    prophecor

    I'd come into the truth late in my life and alone. I was the only one in my family who persued being a witness.It was always my desire to be married. Some of the ideology surrounding worthwhile competent brothers would often make its way to the pages of the Awake magazine in the form of questioning a brothers motivation, even his character when a prospective brother might approach a sister.

    Now much of my feelings were probably due to my own guilt and insecurity regarding my struggling while in the truth. But I often couldn't help but feel as if they were talking about me. I often took personal much of that type of commentary, mostly I imagine due to the fact that it took me so many years to finally get myself on the inside, by the time I got in, I still felt like a criminal who had somehow made it in through the backdoor.

    I can remember statements about how these brothers who had somehow made it into the truth, were not true brothers at all, but were ones who were there only for the purpose of spying out and seeking out weak women who might be suaded by their deception.

    I'd carried so much guilt as it was. Am I crazy or what?, but doesn't the WTS instill in one a sense of guilt to begin with? It must be me, I must be crazy.

    It was an early 90's Awake magazine.

    Anyway as life would have it, I never took upon the opportunity to invade any sisters world because of wrestling with my own demons. The struggle continues, but the war is a much different war.

  • Dawn
    Dawn

    Interesting post. The organization often publishes articles that from the outside can clearly be seen as propoganda. Even bordering on the unhealthy psychotic phobias (they're all out to get me!). It's sad when someone with a true heart that is seeking gets pulled into their snare.

  • Dawn
    Dawn

    Just had to add..........as an outsider now I think it's hysterical that they even suggested "wordly" men would try to infiltrate the organization to seek out weaker women. I mean - come on - there's plenty of women in the "world" and they aren't near as much work - not to mention a whole hell of a lot more fun. So why would anyone waste their time trying to become a 'dub just for a date. Too funny!

  • franklin J
    franklin J

    prophecor,

    I see your point. If it is any consolation, note that those of us who were raised in the truth had even more insecurities and guilt when dealing with the opposite sex.

    As a parent; I think it is normal for a child to be curious and at a certain age want to experiment with sex. It is to be expected. When I was growing up it was expressly FORBIDDEN, under pain of death, to experiment or want to know more about sex. It was inculcated from an early age that any sex before marriage was wrong in the eyes of God. Or so I was taught by Watchtower.

    When I left the religion at age 22 and began to "grow", emotionaly, spiritually and sexually; I went through the awkward motions that most adolescents go through "rituals of life".

    In hindsight, all I can say is....Better late than never....

Share this

Google+
Pinterest
Reddit