should i go?

the mole

my sister called me and asked if my family would go to her house for lunch and attend a special talk given by another family member that morning. she is making sort of a party of it and she asked me to attend. i dont know what to do?

blondie

I take it you are neither DF'd or DA'd?

Do you want to sit through 2 hours of WT meetings, a public talk and a WT study, in order to associate with your family? Is this the only way they will associate with you? Will they be friendly and back off of evangelizing you? Will they make it an occasion to corner you and find out "do you still believe it is the truth"?

Well, mole, only you know if there is more to be gained than lost.

As to my family, I would skip it, too much boundary violating by some and shunning by others even though I am inactive not DF'd or DA'd.

Blondie

Pleasuredome

and face pressure and awkward questions? nah, i certainly wouldn't.

codeblue

Can't you just go to the lunch????

Why do they make you feel you must do both just to "visit" with them???

They should want to see you whether or not you attend their special meeting. That is unconditional love.

Codeblue

cyber-sista

you can go if you want, but you would have to gag and tie me to get me anywhere near a KH again. If you don't believe in the JW religion then you are not obligated to go--just say you will come for the get together but will not attend the meeting. After all if another person invited them for a meal and to attend a non-JW church they wouldn't go.

cybs