trouble with mami!

by betty boop 1 Replies latest jw experiences

  • betty boop
    betty boop

    HI everyone,

    Last week i spoke to my mom (whos still a very active j-dub) about my new apt. i moved into and how everything is going. She then started telling me that since things are going so well with me, and since my new apt is much closer to the hall she attends, that i should now start attending "atleast the sunday meetings mi'ja" I said ma we've had this same discussion for a year now. I moved out of home to gain some independence, Im an adult and i should make my own decisions about what i choose to do with my life. She then stated (very dramatically) how after 23 years im an ingrate and im gonna lose all the good in my life. I said i never got when someone made the decison to diassociate themselves it automatically meant they were cursed. She said i shouldnt count my blessings if i was soo againt the organization. We debated about a few things that i found out were false and other very disturbing situations (i.e. the abuse cases, the UN association) and she took this to great and personal offense. My mom is very strict but can also be supportive fo her kids, but in this case i dont know if she'll budge since ive been calling her for the past 2 weeks and shes avoided speaking with me. I know shes ok cuz i spoke to my brother who still lives at home but i dont know what im supposed to do in order for her to stop being so judgemental, altho i know that is the essence that is the j-dubs..Any suggestions

  • talesin
    talesin

    I had a similar experience, just yesterday. Your mom sounds so much like mine.

    Here's the link, if you would like to read about our encounter,

    http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/9/73088/1.ashx

    I related to your comments most about the "great and personal offense" she took and the DRAMA.

    Experience with my parents has taught me that it's best to just leave it alone. Kindly but firmly tell them I am never going back. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. They never get it, so work on being the most patient daughter/son in the world. It's been over 25 years now for me, so my patience is [usually] quite well-developed. :D

    Good Luck with it!

    tal

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