How did your family react when you left?

alaskagirl

I'm new here so I'm sorry if this has been discussed before. Just wondering about the reactions from your families.

When my family found out I was sleeping with my now husband and pretty much wanted to get df'd, they went psycho on me. My parents stalked my apartment all weekend until I showed up Sunday morning (thinking they'd be at the meeting like good little JWs). They confronted me right there with my husband and his two sons in the room - that made for a good "witness". Later my Mom tried to get me to leave the state for a month. She said she'd pay for my tickets and if I really loved him it would last through a month of being apart. Yeah right, not after the intensive JW brainwashing they wanted to give me. My brother tried to convince me that all worldly men are evil abusive scumbags and my husbands first wife must've become an alcoholic because of him (nevermind that her entire family are alcoholics). My sister begged me to talk to the elders. And I started getting items left in my locked car. Now as far as stalking goes that freaky. My elder brother in law also showed up at my apartment right after my parents and hugged me and told me he loved me (which is creepy because I'm nearly positive he meant it in a not so planotic way - but that's a whole other story).

So how did the rest of you fare?

Stefanie

Sorry you had to go through all of that. It great that you able to stand your ground and get out.

Emma

I think you'll find many similar experiences, and though it may have been touched on before, it's certainly a question that's always current.

My mother tearfully and pitifully pleaded with me to go back to the hall. She and my sibs had talked to the elders in our cong and been told that they'd been trying so hard to help us. They supposedly had been phoning us, coming to the house, reaching out, etc, etc, etc. They were all lying *******'s. There was not even one attempt to see us. I told my mom that no one had tried to contact us, but that I understood she had to believe the elders over what I had to say. Isn't it something that the elders can lie through their teeth and never be questioned, but a daughter who has always been honest is suddenly a liar?

unbeliever

Mother:

Me:

Satanus

My mother recognised the danger signs, finding fault w the wt org. She gave me personal items related to me, old school report cards, some pics, etc, as if she knew she would never see me again. Then, she telephoned an elder in my cong, 2500 miles from herself, about my 'problems'. It speeded up my dfing. I think that she would have cast the first stone too, just to get done what she thought had to be done, according to divine law, as she saw it.

SS