Old Friends

by Purza 2 Replies latest jw friends

  • Purza
    Purza

    I walked away and faded about 2-3 years ago. I moved an hour away and I thought I was forgotten by a lot of my friends. Last year I got a call from a very old friend and was totally shocked when she called me at work. (She got the number from my best friend who still lives down in that area). This friend called to say she was pregnant. After 10 years of marriage they finally got pregnant. Of course I was happy for her, etc. I kept in touch with her over email and her husband called me the day the baby was born to tell me what the sex was and that everything was okay.

    I emailed this friend last week and asked if I could come and visit them so I could see the baby. I told her that I was not attending meetings, but that I was not DF'd, just inactive. I told her this so that she could decide if she wanted to see me or not. Her reply was "don't be silly, we would love to see you". So then I asked if my boyfriend/financee could come too and she said yes. Granted, this couple (who had the baby) are not pillar's of strength in the cong., but still they are active.

    Here is my dilemna. I live with my boyfriend and we are engaged. They are going to ask questions to both me and him like "where do you live", etc. Do I come clean and tell them that we live together? Or do I just side skirt the issue and not answer the question directly? The only reason I care is that I do not wish to be DF'd and although I doubt this couple would "tell" on me, I still would like my private life to stay private. But I also don't want to be afraid or lie to them either.

    Any suggestions as to how I should handle things? Thanks.

    Purza

  • talesin
    talesin

    Looks like you have two choices. Lie and protect yourself and your privacy, or tell the truth and let the chips fall where they may.

    I see nothing wrong with either choice. You are dealing with a cult mindset here, your truth may be used to judge you. If you feel you must be truthful with her, then you are stuck between a rock and a hard place, as far as I can see.

    Let's bttt this, maybe someone else can be of more help.

  • Lady Lee
    Lady Lee

    How about

    Oh silly. How can you talk about me when you have this precious little baby to coo over?

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