1. Until you can get out (especially those with dub-families) lead a double life. I don't mean be a hypocrit, just smile a lot and dodge everything 2. Get your education and career going, read read read 3. Develop friendships with worldly people - they are really good folks, not a bit as we were lead to believe 4. Try not to get upset at dubs, they don't know what they are doing or saying. 5. Stay with a self-help program like this Board, the XJW meet-up etc. as long as you like, you don't need to graduate to something else. It's ok.