Yes - don't ever expect an elder to keep a confidence. We met with two elders and shared personal medical info regarding a family member and stated firmly that we expect this to be kept between just the two of them. We called one of them hours later to again confirm the confidentiality. That elder was totally fine with the idea and said he would contact the other elder and remind him. Next day at the meeting, we were informed that it was too late - elder #1 had already taken it upon himself to inform the entire elder body consisting of about 10 men.
- We were told that if there is ANYTHING that affects a person's SERVICE - that the entire elder body needs to be informed of it.
We hung in there for about 6 months thereafter before we really woke up and knew it was time to "WALK ON"...... Those elders as well as the other 10 have never contacted us to try to bring us back to the fold.