I feel so conflicted. Am I "letting" my family and friends shun me too easily? Should I make them work to shun me?
What got me thinking was if/when I get married, should I invite my JW family and "friends" to the wedding? On the one hand, I say, "HELL NO! They don?t deserve it. if they are willing to completely shun me and actually say goodbye, than why should they be entitled to share one of the most important and joyous events in my life?". Besides, how much would I enjoy my own wedding if my parents who won?t even speak to me were there? (that is, if they even accepted the invite).
But then again, on the other hand, I feel like someone has to be bigger if a change is to ever occur. I think about how I would react if in the future my family left the org and asked for my forgiveness for the lost years. It would be hard for me to extend my hand and trust them again at first but I think that eventually I would just be happy.
So, anyway, my mom asked me not to email her anymore and I was going to respect her request and wait for them to make the next move?the balls in their court, you know? but I keep thinking that maybe I should do everything I can to keep the lines of communication open?.be a real butthead, in other words (just kidding, but I?m sure that?s how they would take it). I see in some of the posts on here, people will send like a yearly report of their life to the still active JWs the know. does that accomplish anything?
I?m not even engaged right now, so the wedding thing is totally hypothetical (but no doubt WILL come up at some point). Has anyone had to deal with stuff like that? Or what about the birth of kids after the family has completely written you off? like I said, I feel like someone has to be bigger and keep the communication flowing, but I really want to be spiteful as well.