As in that woman who joined only to marry the top guy,or had ulterior motives to join jws etc etc.
Were there any pseudo-jws in your congregation?
by badboy 4 Replies latest jw friends
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Corvin
Never saw anything like that, and I am wondering why a worldly woman would marry a jw because he had status in the congregation as an elder. Does not make sense to me. Perhaps if the elder of PO had lots of money . . . I can see it then.
Corvin
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badboy
I believe that is what happened here,Corvin!
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fleaman uk
badboy,are you gonna expand??
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franklin J
yes, I remember very clearly the ones who had their worldly friends ( definitely the A list of wordly friends); in fact I never forgot:
-another elder ( who with his wife were part of my parents circle of friends) was a TV producer. He and his wife had a "wordly" social life with TV personalities; which all sounded very glamorous to me as a child. They said they had to do this socializing for business..You could always smell the cigarette smoke on her breath; despite the breath mints.
- years after I had left the "Truth"; married and reestablished myself; My wife and I were attending a formal dinner at an exclusive yacht club as guests of the Commodore. Another couple at the table who were members of the club ( in fact had one of the premier racing yachts) and seemed very much a part of the social scene at this club were ( unbeknown to me) related to my JW cousin ( the one who was the dentist at Bethel) . When I asked them if they were related to my cousins wife ( the "Mrs." was my cousins wife sister) their JW jaws dropped that I made the connection. He was an Elder. and they were still practicing witnesses.
I was very sincere " this is so open minded of you to be a member of this club and have all of these worldly friends; when I was a full time pioneer and my dad was an elder, we were not so open minded". Prior to this connection, this couple had been very solicitious of us as guests of the Commodore.
They were seated at the table with us and could not run away. They were obviously embarrassed that their wordly friends heard that they were JWs. They obviously did not go door to door in their own community; and as it turned out, attended a congregation several towns away. They ignored us the rest of the evening. Subsequent encounters with them through this social circle caused chuckles with my wife and I as they avoided us or gave a curt "hello" and attempted to ignore us.
He is still an Elder. Although he is a successful Advertising Executive ( nothing wrong with that) they still have their wealthy wordly friends; which they keep separate from their JW way of life. At best, they came across as "social climbers".
My JW cousin who was the dentist at Bethel, and will not condescend to speak to me and did not attend my wedding because "you turned your back on Jehovah", did not seem to think there was anything wrong with them having worldly friends.
Who has the time or energy to lead such a double life? Why bother?