I wish I could see into the future......

by cameo 1 Replies latest jw friends

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  cameo

  It would be SO NICE to have the ability to look into the future to see if our family member will ever let go of the delusion that is the Watchtower Organization. This family member is (and always has been) WELCOME at our home, but seldom do we see her. She has missed so many birthday celebrations, Christmases, Thanksgivings, 4th of July cookouts & fireworks, Mother's Days, Father's Days, etc, etc. It hurts to know she is avoiding contact with us because we are an "evil influence" and to be kept at arm's-length at all times. She is missing out on SO MUCH. Not just the family festivities, but the loving interaction with us and other members of our family.

  I hope someday she realizes she is wasting her life being a literal puppet of the WTS. They tell her what to think; they tell her what to believe; they tell her what to do; they tell her how to act; etc. I wish we could get to know her better, but this WTS cult has her captive.....and it's just so sad and such a shame.

  Thanks for listening.
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  blondie

  Just a question, do you try having family events that don't revolve around holidays and birthdays? Continue having those other events and let her know she is invited, but get together sometimes just for the helluvait and invite her.

  It hurts to know she is avoiding contact with us because we are an "evil influence" and to be kept at arm's-length at all times.

  Is she avoiding you because of these things:

  birthday celebrations, Christmases, Thanksgivings, 4th of July cookouts & fireworks, Mother's Days, Father's Days, etc, etc.

  or because of something else, perhaps of someone's DF'd status or just not being a JW (if it is that she is being extreme).

  My JW family managed to get together with the non-JWs by having family get-togethers that did not involve birthdays and holidays. We had a good time eating, playing games, singing, watching sports, talking, swimming, etc.

  Sometimes being a JW or not being a JW has not much to do with. I remember a non-JW woman I worked with despairing that her non-JW family never got together any more for the holidays or for birthdays. It turned out she had a very dysfunctional, alcoholic family and no one wanted to put on a happy face now that grandma was gone.

  Blondie (who has been on both ends of the story)