What is your most ridiculous example of shunning?

Poztate

Formerout started a thread about being shunned...

This triggered something in me that I guess I really wanted to forget about. How ridiculous do you get with shunning?

Sorry to Min or others if this has been talked about.

Mine came with the pre 1975 panic to come back to the "truth"before it was too late.

I signed up again in 1970...what a dummy.

My Mother was DFed so that meant that I had to shun her. No problem I thought cause god's going to kill everyone real soon now and I really didn't want god to kill me. The problem surfaced when my brother had a serious problem and was in the hospital. I went to visit him but it happened that at the same time my Mom and Stepdad had decided to visit also.

Being a good dub I ignored the fact that they were in the same room even.I was on one side of the bed..mom on the other and I was so indoctrinated that I would not even acknowledge their being there. It is amazing how big an as*hole you can become when this cult takes over your life.

formerout

I've got one that is a little odd, methinks. It's got a little twist to it.

My dad was df'd when he left my mom for another woman when I was 12. A year later he started coming back to the meetings and insisted that I sit with him at the KH, despite the fact that this was the only time he spent with me.

I kind of felt betrayed by my mom and the elders. I hated him. He had left my mom. Worse, he had left us kids. Besides that, he was a very mean and angry person that I felt greatly intimidated by.

Why the hell should I have had to sit with him, when no one else in the congregation even looked at him? I felt that I should be allowed to shun him like everybody else.

He got reinstated about a year later. After that it still sucked but it didn't seem so twisted. Fortunately, about a year after getting reinstated he took off again with the same woman. Peace at last.

Brad, of the "I better bring this up to the therapist when I get one" class.

Nancy Drake

There was a family of JW's in our congregation where the father was disfelloshipped.

I was pretty close friends with the girls of the family, but was not allowed to go over for sleepovers unless he was gone. But their mother babysat me for very cheap, and that was ok if he came home while I was there because it was business? Also, my mom would get her vacuum cleaner fixed by him and it was ok, because it was business.

One time, I was allowed to go to a sleepover there even though he wasn't gone because we agreed to sleep outside in a camper. That was ok. If I went over there to spend the day but not sleepover, it was ok. It was stupid.

Billygoat

Nancy,

I was pretty close friends with the girls of the family, but was not allowed to go over for sleepovers unless he was gone. But their mother babysat me for very cheap, and that was ok if he came home while I was there because it was business? Also, my mom would get her vacuum cleaner fixed by him and it was ok, because it was business.
One time, I was allowed to go to a sleepover there even though he wasn't gone because we agreed to sleep outside in a camper. That was ok. If I went over there to spend the day but not sleepover, it was ok. It was stupid.

Good grief. No wonder we're all so jacked up. Their logic is the most ridiculous circle of crap when you see it in black and white. And WHAT scriptures back this up? Sorry to be so crass about it, but their line of reasoning is pure crap!

Nancy Drake

Also, my mother said I could come to her house, but we were not allowed to have a meal together. But when I moved to another city, I could stay for a little bit and have a meal because I was traveling. Later they changed their minds and said I could only come over if I agreed to get a piece of furniture that belonged to me and bring it back with me, because then I would be going there for "family business."

Also, they've seen my five-year-old son only a couple times since he was born. The first time they actually came to my house when he was a few months old. Then my father wouldn't come because it was against his conscience. But my mother decided it wasn't against hers, but she had to meet me in a park, she wouldn't come to my house. Now they say that he's of the age that he can come visit them on his own. That the only reason they were allowed to visit me before was because my son was too small to be visited by himself.

So now when they call me every two years or so "for family business' they ask if they can pick him up and take him for a weekend. I'm like, yeah right, like I'd let my son go off with a complete stranger so you can start brainwashing him!

Argghhh, I hate that cult. I'm so glad that I'm out.

Billygoat

Nancy,

So now when they call me every two years or so "for family business' they ask if they can pick him up and take him for a weekend. I'm like, yeah right, like I'd let my son go off with a complete stranger so you can start brainwashing him!

I'm so glad you don't let them take him. They truly are strangers. They probably consider taking him for the weekend Theocratic Warfare. Only over my dead body will my child ever spend any length of time with my parents. I experienced the damage they can dish out. By God, it will NEVER happen to my kid if I can help it!

AK - Jeff

My Mom was baptized in '60 - I don't think she attended more than a dozen meetings after the initial year of 'love bombing' ended. She raised us around the 'truth' - the brothers would come by and study and so forth, but she never got active again. Then in 1974(?) when the organization put out the 'No Smoking' sign, an elder approached me (I was in the 'truth' by then) and asked about Mom's habit. By now she had been inactive for most of the past 14 years - the elders never came to see her- but they did now and DF'd her after 6 months for smoking.

She was shunned, of course. But the point that I make is the unneccessary pain caused in this instance. The result? She left my Dad, ran off to live a life of wine and men in another state, over the pain of thinking she was 'dead anyway'. She came back, went to enough meetings to get Reinstated, then never came back to the hall again. The last 30 years of her life must have been a living hell, thinking that soon the end would come and she would die for smoking (she resumed, but was never netted again).

Jesus said "By their fruit you will recognize them". What rotten fruitage they have displayed. She died 6 months ago, and other than one kind elder (who had been my friend for the 30 I was in) - not a damned one of the self righteous son'o'bitches in the whole congregation showed up.

Jesus also said 'Hypocrites, offspring of Vipers" - how true.

Sorry to have gotten off the point -

Jeff

Nancy Drake

Billygoat,

No wonder we're all so jacked up

I never heard it put that way, but hell yeah we're jacked up!

What is your most ridiculous example of shunning?

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