I GOT KIDNAPPED part 1

by kaykay_mp 3 Replies latest jw friends

  • kaykay_mp
    kaykay_mp

    (this was first posted on Google Groups)

    ...well, sorta...

    My boyfriend came down to visit and possibly stay with me in El Paso.
    Well, as you can see that didn't happen.

    He was feeling really uncomfortable in El Paso, being that this is a
    border town. And he was always kidding around about me running away
    with him to his home state of Virginia.

    Last night, he wanted to go for a "little" ride. We first ended up in
    Fabens TX (15 mi east of El Paso). Then we fille up the gas tank. He
    comes back in the car and says, "let's go to VA."

    "ok, I'm all on board, but don't you think we need to go back and, oh,
    uh, get diapers for Jean-Philippe (my 2 yr old), some food and other
    important stuff?"

    "we possibly won't be coming back."

    "um, don't you think we need to get all my paperwork and notify my
    landlord then."

    "trust me. just trust me."

    you know, in any other situation this would be considered kidnapping.
    but i'm a fool for love. and i love him. it took me 3 years for us to
    get back together. it would rip my heart if i lost him again.

    "how are we gonna get diapers."

    "trust me."

    "i cant use my food stamps out of state."

    "trust me."

    Well, after about 30 odd hours, we're here. His mom knew we were
    coming (about 6 hrs before) and is quite awkward about the situation
    and i tried to tell her that i could not convince her son to turn
    around and it was a pretty much lost cause, oh, about the time we got
    to the end of arkansas.

    now, i have to transfer schools, forward my mail, and make a special
    trip to get my important stuff.

    and my mom is going to be so pissed. we went through tennessee and i
    couldn't get him to make a detour to go visit her and my family. now i
    have to find the right time to call her and tell her everything.

    laters
    kaykay_mp

  • lisaBObeesa
    lisaBObeesa

    I don't know you, but I read your post and it seems really not too fun what happened to you...It sounds like you did not want to go, but you thought you 'should' or something.

    Did you want to go? Where do YOU want to live? Why would this person ask such a huge sacrifice from you? It sounds like now you have no money...are in a very helpless situation...

    Could you get back home if you wanted? If you really wanted to go back home, could you tell him so and do it? Could you emotionally do it? If you didn't want to live in this new place, so far away could you tell him? Would he CARE?

    Don't life partners TALK to eachother about what they each want, where they want to live, ect, and decide together? Why wouldn't he even ask you if you wanted to move? Isn't that strange?

    It sounds like this guy doesn't CARE what you want. Or care about what is important to you. Or care about how your kid is going to eat and have diapers. Or care about how you FEEL.

    That must hurt you very, very much. I don't know you, but I know you are a very caring and loving person, just from what you wrote. Your feelings are important. You deserve to be treated better.

    Take care of yourself. Maybe he tricked you into getting into that car, but you can go home now. If he does this sort of stuff to you now, and you just stuff your feelings and LET HIM DO IT, he is just going to keep doing it and you will keep being treated like a doormat forever.

    Loving someone doesn't mean doing whatever they say.

    Love,

    LisaBOBeesa

  • kaykay_mp
    kaykay_mp

    There was some questions about my sanity:

    I'm not that stupid. Yes, I'm a fool for love, but Joe was not in his right mind and I had to agree with him because I didn't know what he was capable of. When we got to Virginia, that's when I found out Joe was mentally ill before this.

    laters

    kaykay_mp

  • lisaBObeesa
    lisaBObeesa
    I'm not that stupid. Yes, I'm a fool for love, but Joe was not in his right mind and I had to agree with him because I didn't know what he was capable of. When we got to Virginia, that's when I found out Joe was mentally ill before this.

    laters

    I am really sorry if I sounded like I thought you were stupid. I didn't mean that or think that at all. I just read the story and I thought this just happened...like last week or something and it sounded so much like something I have gone though...

    I'm very sorry if I offended. Really.

    -Lisa

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