friends to no one

cathy4school

When you are in the JW's you assume you have lots of true friends who will be there for you. Wrong! Nothing could be farther from the truth then that statement. The only reason they are your friends is because you are in the group and once you leave the group you are shunned and treated like you don't even exist. I left the group because I found out that a "friend" of mine and my husband were having an affair for a long time. When I found out, of course I went to the elders for support and was told I shouldn't gossip about the two of them. I was mortified but then realized that comment was said because they were both baptized and went out in service and I was neither of those things and meant nothing to the group. I then stopped going to meetings and ended up having no friends at all in the group. I was then marked as being "evil" and I was even told I was evil for not attending meetings. Needless to say, my "best friend" and husband are now at the meetings together and are fine upstanding people going door to door preaching how wrong adultery is and don't you know who the "evil" one is? I do believe that the JW's should practice what they preach and stop judging and condemning people just because they choose not to go to their meetings. I would appreciate any responses to my story.

logical

Hi

It sucks doesnt it?

Count yourself lucky that you found out what an evil hypocritical organisation it is before you got baptised.

I never got baptised. Before I left, my study guide said that he'll always be a friend to me, even if I stop. Since the final meeting with the elders, he has not been round once. Not called or anything.

Gopher

Cathy,

So sorry to hear your marriage couldn't survive. Your case illustrates the hypocrisy at all levels of the organization, and innocent people like yourself suffer. It really should be your husband and that non-friend of yours who SHOULD suffer. And the lack of support from the elders for you is astonishing. It proves what you said about the organization resembling a social group. It does not resemble true Christianity, what with its selective justice.

I hope you enjoy it on our board (and post more), and hope that future friendships / relationships outside the conditional ones you'd get from the JW's will be much better and happier for you!!

GopherEven if you're on the right track, you'll get run over if you just sit there.
Will Rogers (1879-1935)

jayhawk1

Dear Cathy4school,
I left you a message at your post in the study article section. I hope you can find the comfort in which you seek. I hope you have a great day. I look forward to any comments you make elsewhere.

"Hand me that whiskey, I need to consult the spirit."-J.F. Rutherford

Simon

Sorry to hear about your experience cathy4school

Unfortunately, it's not that unique which is why there are so many ex-JW's. Their double standards when it suits them really is galling sometimes.

I hope things get better for you and like logical said, at least you didn't join (not much consolation I know).

gsark

This doesn't help you much with your most likey, but for what it's worth,

where you personally are concerned, the Watchtower/your husband/best friend's loss is our gain.

Keep coming back,

Life is a roller coaster. Get in, sit down, shut up and hang on!