I ran across this "Predator's Toolkit" the other day and I thought it was right-on.
/ag
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A Predator's Toolkit
Chapter Seven from
ORPHANS IN THE STORM: Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse
http://www.gregoryreid.com/id111.htm
Most "professional pedophiles" have turned molestation into a fine science. They are precise in their plans and use well-tested lures and traps to get kids in a place where they can be molested. The following is a "profile of seduction", an overview of how a predator works.
LURES
1. Drugs (Voluntary and involuntary)
2. Alcohol (To lower the victim's inhibitions and make them confused and vulnerable)
3. Pornography (Printed and video, to lower the sexual inhibitions and arouse the victim)
4. Music, video games, etc.
The predator is current on music trends, video games, movies, etc. and their homes often look like a kid's paradise.
5. Prestige & Status.
To a boy or teen, hanging around with a dynamic, fun adult with a nice house and a fast car is a very powerful lure, a major ego booster.
6. Money & Gifts.
Predators shower their victims with gifts and money, which is very seductive to a kid who may not have much materially, and it also puts the boy in a place of "obligation" to the giver.
7. Physical affection.
Predators can sense kids who have little affection at home, which is something every boy or teen needs, and he slowly begins giving that affection to the boy a little at a time, making him dependent on it, craving it to feel loved and liked and special.
8. Emotional support.
Predators go out of their way to listen to a boy, sympathize with his problems and offer help and advice as well as encouragement. This goes a long way with a kid who doesn't feel like he's worth much.
9. Sexual gratification.
Predators are experts on how to seduce, entice, arouse and sexually stimulate a boy or teen, and like it or not, it can become an addiction for the boy, especially if it's his first sexual experience. Mix that with needed affection, and soon the boy won't know the difference between sex and affection, love and arousal.
10. Time.
Time is the predator's most powerful tool. Unlike normal adults who have lives, jobs, children, families, hobbies, and other interests and obligations which all play important but somewhat equal parts in life, the predator has a job, a career, interests, hobbies, etc., only as props to support his addiction kids. Since this is his allconsuming addiction, money, time and interests are all expended toward this one goal to find his fantasy child or teen and molest them, photograph them, use them. Since the other things like work and family are just asides, they have enormous amounts of time and energy to devote to the finding of kids, the luring of kids, the prepping of kids, for the seemingly endless amount of time spent listening to kids and going places with them and buying them things and doing things with them, all in hopes of the ultimate sex with a minor. (is that not a perfect description of Michael Jackson or what? /ag)
The Project
Once a predator determines to find a victim, this is the general train of events that often follows:
1. He Finds the desired child or teen.
2. Befriends them, gains their trust.
3. Gains the trust of the parents so they won't suspect.
4. Makes the boy feel important through lots of time and personal attention, makes him feel he is more important to him than anybody.
5. Flatters him. Tells him he's handsome, smart, etc.
6. Makes plans for private time with him,
a. Counseling him,
b. Going to movies,
c. Going to the park, video arcade, beach, pool, concerts, etc.,
d. Plans a camping trip with him,
e. Hires him to work around the house or business,
f. Helps him with his schoolwork.
7. Treats him like an adult.
8. Builds nonthreatening affectionate physical contact.
9. Introduces or allows "adult" activities; smoking, drinking, drugs, pornography, swearing, etc.
10. Starts slowly discussing sex, gaining as much intimate knowledge of him as possible.
11. Remolds his thinking about what is "normal sex", eventually disclosing his "normal" desires for sex with the boy.
12. Having changed his thinking, gained his trust and dependency and accelerated physical contact, the boy is now totally vulnerable to being molested.
13. The predator plans the time and place where there will be no suspicion or interference or time constraints.
14. After prepping him with alcohol, pornography, etc., while he has broken down the walls enough to start molesting him, he tells him:
It's normal,
All guys do it,
He knows some of his friends who do it,
He loves him,
The boy is "turned on" and that's normal and means he wants it too,
Guilt is wrong,
He's the greatest kid in the world.
15. After he's molested him, he makes the boy feel he started it, threatens to tell if he has to, tells him he will be destroyed if the boy tells, whatever it takes to keep him quiet.
16. After he has outgrown his attraction for him, the predator keeps the photos or videos as a memento and searches for a new kid.
This is a general picture that doesn't fit every victim or every predator, but fits many of them, and in that respect it is very painfully accurate. Knowing your enemy is half the battle in stopping him.
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Read Greg Reid's (abuse survivor) personal story online, Free. It's VERY GOOD, quick reading, big print. /ag :
"A PREDATOR'S TOOLKIT" (& you won't find these tools @ Ace Hardware either)
by abbagail 6 Replies latest watchtower child-abuse
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abbagail
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abbagail
ooops, as usual, I messed up the link. here's the url to Greg Reid's online personal abuse story, mentioned above: http://www.gregoryreid.com/id51.htm
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Dragonlady76
Thanks for posting this, makes my skin crawl, but as a parent of a young son I would like to know what to watch out for.
Dragonlady76
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Satanus
Good link. It's interesting how the psychological factors in sexual abuse of kids are similar to the ones in physical, emotional and religious abuse, and also emotional neglect. From about chapter 17 these can be seen. Also, some of the methods of liberation are similar. We need the abilities to identify predators, vampires, manipulators and users of all types, and then protect ourselves from them.
S
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diamondblue1974
frightening isnt it....its quite horrendous actually that it was only last year that British law made grooming of children illegal...i reiterate...its frightening...
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abbagail
Thanks everyone for the heartfelt comments. All sooo true. Gives one the shivers, for sure, if not a hard-knot in one's gut.
We had just such a "predator" in our family, the pervert-uncle, and sure enough that "toolkit" describes him quite well, which is why I was so moved (and astounded) by its descriptions and accuracy.
I think a big tell-tale sign is when these guys start chummying-up to the parents to schmooze them over, too (our family perv sure had everyone fooled). Also the info about how they keep jobs merely as a "cover" for their "real" agenda in life. Wow.
What gets me is why so many folks out there in the "regular world" are still so unknowledgeable about these things (as is evidenced at this late date on talk shows when you still hear parents say, "We had no idea. If we only had known what to look for," etc. etc. But oh well, We keep trying to "get the word out" when possible!!! :-/
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rebel8
Michael Jackson seems to meet most of those criteria. Surprise.