Oral Sex
The following posted is lifted directly from a Catholic forum [I've only edited the format for ease of reading].
As you read it, notice how familiar the feelings and the situation are. This is what happens when anyone allows their independence of thought and conscience to be controlled by another.....
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I am a married(14yrs), female(42yrs) and a "re-vert"(that's re-converted) to the Faith.(8yrs) Before the marriage I did not follow the "teachings of the Church" Now, after being struck by a "spiritual lightning bolt" 8 yrs ago, I totally embrace the teachings of mother Church. Not blindly, I truly see the truth in her teachings.
My problem: Oral sex.
My husband, a non-practising protestant wants it and I no longer feel good about it as a total act of love. I do not object to its use in foreplay, I just want the act to end in intercourse.
When I try to explain why the Church teaches that this act is sinful (as well as using artificial birth contral, masterbation, etc), he scoffs and becomes very upset with me. He tells me that God wants us to have a happy marriage and if I do not please him, it makes an unhappy marriage and that is not what God wants.
I try to tell him that if I do this, it makes me unhappy and therefore an unhappy marriage! He just dosen't buy it and he wants me to be like all the "other Catholics" out there who use birthcontrol and engage in oral sex.
He says that I am being unloving and very selfish. It makes him very depressed to know that because I will not do this for him at lease once a month, then I do not love him. He is considering divorce over our differences. (there have been others we weathered)
He does not like the New person I have become. [emphasis added]
He wants me to change back into the girl he once knew. What I need here are some witnesses!! Can I get a witness? or more? Help me to convince my husband that I am not a fanitic wierdo. Can we talk about this issue? I know that it is an embarrasing subject, but I need some back-up.
Anyone relate to this? HELP!!
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. http://communities.msn.co.uk/Catholic/marriage.msnw?action=get_message&mview=0&ID_Message=27351&LastModified=4675330715097375558
Depressingly familiar isn't it?
Nic'