I didn't ask to be born

rebel8

That was my response to my JW mother when she was interrogating me as a teen as to why I was depressed. She barraged me with scriptures commanding me to be joyful in J's service, saying it was wrong of me to feel unsatisfied with my life and sad....so not only was I sad, I was committing a wrong against the Almighty for feeling so.

My mother would question me as to why I was sad, and I'd say, "What do I have to be happy about? I have few friends and little to look forward to in life." Then she'd talk about the paradise blah-blah, and I remember thinking it was never gonna happen. I was right.

I was just recalling this and realizing how far I've come since then.

devinsmom

I remember telling my parents the same thing right around the same time I attempted suicide at 14. I think that maybe a common viewpoint amoung young people who fee trapped, abused represed, etc...thanks for sharing! We certainly have come a long way since then!

-April

toladest

This subject always reminds me of the song Wonderful by everclear. My mom was the same way yours was. We were always told how wonderful life was because we were God's happy people. We always had to try to look happy.

These are some of the words that really hit home:

Promises mean everything
When you?re little and the world so big
I just don?t understand
how you can smile with all those tears in your eyes
and tell me everything is wonderful now

Please don?t tell me everything is wonderful now

I go to school and I run and play
I tell the kids that it?s all ok
I laugh a lot so my friends won?t know
When the bell rings that I just don?t wanna go
I go to my room and I close my eyes
I make believe that I have a new life
I don?t believe you when you say
Everything will be wonderful some day

Everclear.

rebel8

Very true. Thankfully, the "some day" has come and we are happy now.

Sassy

Yeah, I remember they used to say that if you were unhappy, you must not be doing enough for the Kingdom. More Service, More meeting preperation!

and if you were still having problems, you must be having demon problems

stillajwexelder

alawys more like Sassy says

zen nudist

for all those who never asked to be born....why are you are still here?

those who are serious about leaving do.... some who are not as serious do as well, by accident...

but most dont really wish to leave, they just wish their life would change in some way.

I am all for the right to die....but most people dont find things that bad, even when things are rough.

either they are afriad the alternative is worse [which is a distinct possibility]

or that there really is no alternative and so there is no hurry, as you may be dead for a long long time, possibly forever.

Daunt

I think this is true for every JW parent ever. One characteristic that is pretty sad with my family is that they forget something that happened that's bad. Like all of the times I acted out and said I didn't want to go to the meetings anymore, the next day forgotten. When I got arrested it was like nothing happened the next they. And now they talk to me like I love the truth more than they do. Self Deception eh.

rebel8

for all those who never asked to be born....why are you are still here?
those who are serious about leaving do

I never said "I didn't ask to be born" with any suicidal ideas in mind. It had nothing to do with suicide.

It was an adolescent response to my jw freak mother's demands for me to participate in a mind control cult and her demands I be happy about it. My response was meant to indicate I didn't create this type of life for myself, so why am I a bad person for not liking it? It's not like I got into that situation of my own volition.

I didn't ask to be born

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