JW Sister On My Nerves

by love2Bworldly 6 Replies latest jw friends

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  love2Bworldly

  I need to vent. I have a sister who is not only still a JW, but she is nuttier than a fruitcake. She calls me at work and at home (long distance) to give me a play-by-play of some real estate we are trying to sell--it's in escrow but tied up in legal BS. There are several lawyers involved, some family members are pissed off that the property is being sold--at twice the value I might add. Anyway--every week I either get good news that escrow will be closed soon or she tells me negative stuff that we may not get our money for a while.

  My husband keeps telling me to let her have it, because her phone calls are really starting to stress me out. Imagine being on a roller coaster ride every week--expecting a lump sum of money when you have kids to feed and growing bills, and being very very stressed already about needing the money. Not only do I have to watch what I say because I'm 'worldly', but she is on medication, flighty, high-strung, and extreeeeemely sensitive to criticism. So--I am afraid to stand up for myself because I don't want to cause her to flip out, and she isn't shunning me like she did years ago.

  Anyway--I've been biding my time. She knows I'm not thrilled with her phone calls because today my monotone voice said it all. I told her I really don't want to talk about the property in escrow any more unless I have a check in the mail, because I'm so stressed out. I'm not sure if she got the message. Then she started asking me if my 18 year old daughter would like to go to a Gordon Lightfoot concert with her. Pleeeeease--my daughter likes Alternative music, and not JW approved music and entertainment.

  Sorry--I am totally rambling on and on but my sister is on my last nerves right now. I feel like intentionally blurting out that I'm an Apostate so she'll leave me alone.
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  avishai

  Get caller ID and only answer every third call.

  On a nother note, I LOVE Gordon Lightfoot. And alternative.
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  love2Bworldly

  I like Gordon Lightfoot too, but you have to understand that my sister and I used to fight about music when I was a JW. I was listening to The Pointer Sisters and Michael Jackson--that bothered her conscience, and she was listening to bagpipe music and Irish Folk singers. My daughter likes her aunt, but she gets tired of not being able to relax around my sister--my sister might get offended at something, you know like the R rated movies my daughter likes, things like that.
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  Netty

  I know exactly what you mean. I have someone in my life who does this to me.

  Is there a way you could avoid her calls. I dont have caller ID, but I do have voice mail, and when I need some peace and quiet, I turn the ringer off. If its that important, they will leave a message, but even then, I can choose if and when I feel like calling them back.
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  love2Bworldly

  Sometimes I do avoid her calls, but she'll keep calling until she talks to me. I know I should stand up to her, but I really hated it when she used to shun me--and I have 2 other non-JW siblings that also get on my nerves. I guess you can't choose your relatives. My other sister is even more nutty and should be on meds & is preachy Pentecostal, and my brother does nothing but sit around and feel sorry for himself and smoke pot. I've often been told I'm the only normal person in the family. I guess the older I get, I really don't want to be around people that drag me down emotionally. I want to be around people who make me feel good.
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  Frog

  Just be upfront with her, if she can't be sympathetic of your situation then let her know you'd rather not receive her calls. Let her know your door is always open if she has any other matters she wishes to discuss with you, or if she's up for a light chat. Vent away girl, I hope you feel better for it:) frog x
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  Es

  yeah caller id is a great thing i must get it installed myself. But yeah just slowly start sticking up for yourself you need to think of you first. Hope all goes well es