As anyone who might remember will remember, I posted some time ago that my mother finally stopped going to JW meetings a couple of months back, after 30 years of being an anchor of her congregation... Now, ever since leaving there have been no elder visits (my dad is still an elder), and the C/O came around and my mom talked to him one on one, and that all seemed sorted. 'Sisters' from the congregation still come around and see my mom (but only 'ones' that we here 'friends'), and there were about 150 'we miss you' 'please come back' cards... but as much as most of the people in my mom's congregation are 'cut up' and 'sad at the loss of sister _ _ _ _ ', they still call around for a coffee, or meet my mom for a coffee and are OK about it... This in itself might seem strange, but not so, considering the congregation I grew up in, everyone would still talk to me since I am not df'd and they always ask how my brother and I are doing...
Anyway, to cut a long story short, I asked my mom how her oldest friend was, a woman who was her friend when she first became a JW in the mid 70's... Now this is a person who always lived over 100 miles away from us, but would come and stay at our house every now and then, for assemblies etc, a person my mom had a very special friendship with... A very open minded and spiritual woman by all appearances, somewhat eccentric and a big fan of Dr. Seusse (which is where I get my love of Dr. Seusse from)... Well, it turns out this one person who you would never in a million years expect to pass a sweeping judgement, when my mom told her she would no longer be going to meetings, she said 'then I don't want to speak to you again' The End!
Can you believe that garbage? You can be friends for a lifetime, and then snap, it's over and the illusion is broken... This ex-friend of my mom told my dad she was hoping to shock my mom... Funny after 30 years of knowing my mom, a person should know that she doesn't play games or take shit off anyone (excepe me, ha ha ha), and because of this person's stupid narrowmindedness, a friendship is over, or should I say, someone's mettle has been tested, and failed to pass.
What's ironic is that this is a shunning from your closest and oldest friend, even when they do not have to shun you because you are not df'd. To my mind this is very ill.
Funny how the cookie crumbles...
Anyways, just wanted to share the experience... feel free to chime in if you have any similar ones.