Please check out my letter to my sister and tell me what you think.

by Apostanator 2 Replies latest jw friends

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  Apostanator

  Dear *****

  I know Jehovah's Witnesses view people of the world as bad because Satan is the ruler of the world and we are all controlled by him. You preach that we will all soon die at the hands of Jehovah at Armageddon. Since I dis-associated myself, I am viewed as Apostate or one of Satans Agents. I know this is the way you feel and think about me because that is what you are taught. So I am puzzled as to why it's o.k. for me now to visit Ma at your home. It seems contradictory to have me there. It's like inviting a cohort of Satan's to your house.

  The invitation to your home does little to erase the words or actions displayed to me in the past. Lets be honest, I am dead in your eyes and in the eyes of Jehovah. I was not invited into your lives before, when Ma was well and now that she is sickI am allowed to see her? This does not make sense. Too many years have passed between us and none of you have ever called me out of real concern to inquire about me or how I'm doing. The family had made it perfectly clear that if I didn't want anything to do with Jehovah's then they didn't want anything to do with me. Even when Uncle ****** was in the hospital, it was the social worker who called me, not the family! He had been there for a whole week and you knew it, but decided not to tell me.

  *****, I know your agenda is to somehow ease your conscience about not making myself available to Ma while she lives with you. It would bother me too if I prevented Ma's children from seeing her in her final days. However I can't help but think that once she passes away, everything will go back to the way it was. So I don't understand what it is that you and the family want from me? I don't intend on ever going back to being one of Jehovah's Witnesses.

  Your religion teaches you to be no part of the world and yet, the Watchtower associated with the U.N. as a N.G.O. ( non governmental organization ) to gain benefits. It teaches you that rape and child molestation are wrong and yet, they say, do not bring your brother to court, it would bring reproach upon Jehovah's name if the world knows what happened to these children in our spiritual paradise. Unfortunately crimes are committed and hidden within the confines of the Watchtower Corporation. You know that, look what happened to ****** and her sisters. The Witnesses are no better than the Catholics when it comes to child abuse.

  There is not much more to say here. I strongly encourage you and the rest of the family to truly examine your religion and find out what goes on behind the scenes and until you are willing to do so and discuss what you find with me, I am going to have to say goodbye.
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  Joyzabel

  imho, too wordy.

  I am puzzled as to why it's o.k. for me now to visit Ma at your home.

  that is all that is needed.
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  Frog

  Hi A, think it's great that you have found a way to write out your feelings. Just hold on to the letter for a while and think about it a little while longer before you send it. Problem is that if your emotions changes, or your mothers health worsens you might just regret having been so honest. Perhaps there is a better time in the future to send this letter?

  I wrote a letter to my mother and sisters a few months back, took me 6months to write it. I know they all received it, I mended one bridge with a sister, but my mother and eldest sister do not plan to contact me. The reason I'm saying this is that you need to examine your motives for writing the letter. Are you writing and secretly hoping for a response, despite the fact that this is highly unlikely? If this is the case then you will most likely only end up more hurt than you already are. You don't need to apologise for feeling the way you do, you have every right to feel bitter and angry at them, but I'm certain that underneath you must really love them. We all know they are delluded on account of their association with the org.

  One final thing, if you start your letter the way you have, there is a good chance the reader won't read on. You have to remember the level of indoctrination and fear that your words will give rise to in your sister. You catch more flies with honey, so my opinion is that you would be better off to appeal to your sister out of love and absolutely frank honesty. This way she will realise that you haven't become what the org tells her you have become. I don't think you want to word your letter in such a way that seems as though you are accepting the accusations of the org, this way you are only confirming what she has feared. You need to show her that she is wrong, that you are a wonderful and honest and true person for so many reasons. Frank honesty is the only way. If you really appeal to her heart, this will have a more profound effect.

  I'll post a link of the letter I wrote to my sisters and mother, it's a little long, but you will get an idea of the style that I wrote in. My letter really appealed to one of my more reasonable sisters hearts.

  <http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/87881/1.ashx>

  All the best with it, and remember to take your time with it. frog xx