My Father-In-Law was a pedophile & JW

by Not Perfect 5 Replies latest jw friends

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  Not Perfect

  Greetings,

  I know that Amazing has gotten our input on how many victims/
  perps we might/did know. I am here to say that I suspected my
  Father-in-law of such crimes against his daughter, but I had no
  hard evidence. That was 25 years ago, but her mental health record
  over the years,is enough for me to know that my feelings were correct.

  I know that Silentlambs is doing his best to get the message for change out there now, but how can we help those that have been victims so many years ago? Any input?
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  jurs

  I'm not sure if this is a good idea or not, but what about making small posters and putting them up in grocery stores. (ya know how grocery stores have bulletin boards where you can put a poster up to sell something. )
  It could read something like this:
  Support group for Ex -JW's,
  Have you been a victim of sexual abuse?
  Wether you have been or just want to talk to former JW's
  Its on the internet, here's the site, No one will know your identity.
  And then give this web site address.
  Most sexual abuse happens to women and all JW women shop at the grocery store. It wouldn't cost but a few cents for the poster board. what do ya think?
  jurs
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  jurs

  Good Gravy, I'm on fire now !!!

  What about making a big Poster and nailing it by a telephone post by the local kingdom halls. I think its legal because people post yard sale signs and work from home type signs.
  I'm sure the JW's would tear them down but since its cheap I could keep putting them up.
  For all you smarties or legal eagles out there is this ok to do? Would it be considered slander or something ? Is it ok to advertise a web address?

  jurs
  jurs
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  Not Perfect

  Hi Jurs,

  I don't think this guy is looking for little girls in his area. I just wanted to put it out there that I know that I knew someone that victimized his own child. No one in the WTBTS could have known what happenned in his own home. I guess that I just came into his family and had a little more knowledge of the "World" than he did.

  It is a very sad thing. Everytime Silentlambs posts, I just want to cry. I was a rape victim when I was 43 and I put that sob in jail. I didn't need 2 witnesses. The DA took my word. But the WTBTS has a Standard. They call it Biblical. There ARE 2 witnesses to all crimes, but I don't think that they know that Jah is looking. (You Know, "We must protect that Holy Name that we carry"). How can they throw dirt at others when their robes are filled with "unclean things".

  I just hope to protect all others from any of these types of crimes. I have some lovely little ones still in the wtbts. I don't know the criminals that have been reported in their area. I doubt that any would be in the wtbts. Well, not reported that is.

  Thanks for your thoughts and I hope that your words help someone else too.

  Peace, Not Perfect, and never will be.

  "Grandpa, what would you have done differently if you would have known it would have turned out like this?" (peggy sue) "I'd have taken better care of my teeth", from "When Peggy Sue Got Married"
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  waiting

  Howdy NotPerfect,

  Are you any relation to NotPerfectYet? If so, then you're privy to better information than I can give. If not, welcome to our forum.

  but how can we help those that have been victims so many years ago? Any input?

  I am a survivor/victim from so many years ago. I have a marvelous little trick (that I didn't know I exercised) that I would just click off from friends and my past. Thus, I didn't have much of a problem creating my past as I perceived it, and no one to say it wasn't so.
  I also didn't remember years, people, events - so it wasn't a problem to say "no, that didn't happen."

  But then, the curtains of the mind started to flutter, and I went back to my old stompin' ground - and talked to childhood friends about what I did remember - and suspect.

  I was amazed, and it took some time to filter the facts they remembered. But we sat and talked hours. It was sad - because I didn't remember the friendship they had of me, but they were kind to me, and helped me fill in the blanks. Big blanks.

  I still don't remember their events, but each friend filled the puzzle with the same kinds of facts. Surprised me.

  As to you and your old friend? Contact her - just say "howdy" over a cup of coffee if possible. Perhaps gently open conversation and see if she takes the bait about talking about her father. If she does, let her talk. Sometimes we just don't have anybody we can talk to who remembers the people we remember.

  And sometimes we just want someone who absolutely will not say "well, that's the past.....time to get on with your life......look how well you're doing......." We just want to straighten things out in our heads, toy with emotions we've never expressed, speak honestly.

  Touch reality on things which some of us still visualize belonging to another world, another time. A friend, not even really close, can be a remarkable help. Hope you go for it.

  I am here to say that I suspected my Father-in-law of such crimes against his daughter, but I had no hard evidence. That was 25 years ago, but her mental health record over the years,is enough for me to know that my feelings were correct.

  On the other hand, she may consider the matter closed, not want to discuss it at all. May never want to. That would be her choice, imho.

  I know I rambled, hope this makes sense.

  waiting
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  MadApostate

  Jurs:

  I really like your idea about putting up notices on BBs in groceries, laundramats, etc., especially since laundromats are the JWs favorite way to start time and make big mag placement counts. (I wouldn't limit the notices to just the ped issue.)

  As for putting up posters on telephone poles near KH, I think that would be so hilarious that I really hate to dampen the idea. However, I recall a newspaper article once, where a utility company really went off on people who put up posters on their "private property". I think there may even typically be local ordances against such. Anyway, the article also explained that the utility companies had employees who did nothing but drive around and take down signs. They threatened to prosecute anyone they could identify. Of course, we all see certain signs continuously posted, so go at it. I would love to drive by a KH and see one of your signs!!!