I am a very very stubborn person at times, i would like to know from others like me do you feel this a burden at times? es
Stubborness
by Es 9 Replies latest jw friends
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Low-Key Lysmith
I am terribly stubborn. It has it's drawbacks, however, I think my stubbornness has been benificial in a lot of way too. For instance, I quit smoking cold-turkey after smoking for over 15 years. I did not use nicotine gum, the nicotine patch, or any other "quit smoking" aid or device. I just dropped my pack one day and resolved to never pick up another cigarrette again. I have not even so much as looked at a smoke since. I am convinced that this is due only to my extreme stubbornness.
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talesin
lol, I like to think of it as "persistent" "tenacious" or "stick-to-it-iveness". "Stubborn" just sounds so negative ...
Seriously, though, that's what my shrink used to say,,, it's not really a bad thing if you can learn to moderate a bit, and throw off the JW *always-has-to-be-right" chains of bondage.
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Es
Yeah i agree latley my stubborness or persistence to want of a better word has caused a lot of trouble for me in the way that i refuse to let something go until im satisfied with the result, unfortunately the person i have the problem with is not like me or maybe she is and thats the problem we are both stubborn and i hate to be defeated when i know i have a valid point. Its tiring
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Frog
I think babe that you've probably had to be a little extreme in this respect because of all the trials you've had to face. If you didn't stick up for and stick to your beliefs no-one would have done it for you. I think perhaps that with time when all the really hard stuff is over you might probably find yourself relaxing a little in this regard. So don't beat yourself up babe, I admire you for your independence and go-getter attitude:)) Luv Frog xx
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Es
thanks hun, yeah i guess you right. As you said i have had lots of trials and i have had to be strong.I thinking that perhaps my stubborness has perhaps created more prob for me get me?If i could only let go of things and not make such a big deal maybe my life would be less stressful es
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Frog
I can relate to you darl. I wished I could be more chilled out sometimes and let things slide, but when things really bite me I can get way too worked up about it. Sometimes it is definitely best to let matters slide, especially if you're dealing with someone you can't reason with. I figure that you feel whatever way you feel in that moment for a reason. Best thing to try to do is to try to understand what the triggers were that brought you back to that place where you felt you had to be stubborn and not let things go. Now, if we're talking about your mother in-law here, well it seems to me you've got very good reasons for feeling like you shouldn't back down on certain things. It's true you can't let people get away with murder and rule your life, but there is definitley a way to get your peice across without being overly confrontational. That's the hard part though, especially when you just wished everyone treated you with the same respect that you treat them. I guess we just have to learn to pick our battles sometimes, and make the other person realise that they may have gotten their way, but it doesn't change your opinion or perspective. You're definitley the better person if you can let things go when there's not a great deal but your pride at stake.
Don't beat yourself up babe. You're absolutely awesome, you don't need to change a thing, just keep being yourself:)) Frog xx
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Golf
Stubborn or hard to convince?
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Ellie
I'm terribly stubborn, I always have to right all of the time, it doesn't make me easy to live with and I'd rather not be this way because even when I am right I am told that I'm wrong but won't admit it because I'm stubborn, which really infuriates me.
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Es
I hear you ellie loud and clear heheh thats me to a tea es