In my "New j.w. Strategy" post a few days ago, I mentioned how I was afraid that my j.w. sister-in-law might be working on my non-j.w. daughter, using "Obligatory reasons" to lure her into the j.w. cult. (Doing things for her and making her feel obligated to start a Bible study, or go to the K.H.)
Well, my older non-j.w. daughter and our granddaughter just spent today, my birthday, with my wife and I and my sister, "pigging out" on seafood. (My birthday present). Everything went well, except that my daughter wasn't feeling so good today, and didn't join in as much as she would have wanted to.
Anyway, after she left, I called her at home, and told her that I feel like calling my younger j.w. daughter and "telling her off", because she didn't show up or even call her Dad on his (my) birthday, plus the fact that she never spends any family days with us anymore, because of the j.w. cult.
My older daughter said, "but she did come over last week for a cookout, but of course we had to ask her, otherwise she wouldn't have come over. (Too busy with the j.w.'s.) So, I said that I don't like the fact that she has to check her calendar to see if it's groundhog day before she will come over. (I exagerated). LOL !! In case she's not allowed to celebrate it.
So, my daughter said, "Well, she's in a cult, and I shouldn't let that bother me so much, and maybe someday she'll wake up and see that it's just a cult". (Music to my ears) !!
I then said, Do you believe it's a cult, and she said yes. I then said, Did it help you to realize that through all the research I showed you that the j.w. religion is a cult? and she said YES !!
So, I told her how I am afraid that even though I don't want her NOT to spend time with her sister and her aunt, I am worried about the two of them doing things for you, and making you feel OBLIGATED to go to meetings, or Bible study. She said that they have never done that yet, and if they ever do, she'll say."What the f--k". And then tell them off.
I also mentioned that an old lady that my wife knew, used to have some j.w.'s come over, and they used to go food shopping for the old lady, and once she told them that she wasn't interested in studying with them, they stopped coming to help her, and it's because it is only conditional love that they show, which is not the way Jesus would want to do things. She listened, and agreed, and told me not to worry, that she wouldn't ever get into that cult, and that maybe someday her sister will wake up and see that it is a cult.
So, I am exstatic ! A great party, plus the added bonus of talking to my daughter at the right time, about how I felt about her getting obligated to study with the j.w.'s. I was waiting for the right time, and I guess I timed it right.
Of course, this doesn't mean I will let up on my research, and back off on trying to keep my older daughter out of the org. I learned that lesson a few years back, when this stuff started again with me younger daughter. Anyway, I can't wait for my wife to get home to tell her the "GOOD NEWS'"!!
I want to thank everyone on this board for helping with my research, too. You people made the difference.
A special thanks to Simon for this forum.
Hubert