I've been too afraid to go to my parents' place to see them since my last encounter with my Dad. My Dad came by this morning to talk.
90% of it went pretty well.
I gave him a letter I'd composed to give to the brothers in lieu of meeting with them (I don't have the emotional wherewithal to do it, besides having no intention of giving them the satisfaction). It described the things taught by the Org that bothered my conscience - not all of the things, but those things that prompted me to quit service and meetings: The Org's insistence on prophesying, its insistence on JWs accepting everything they teach to remain "Christians", policies which cost lives then are changed (e.g., blood, organ transplants), the "no mediator for the Great Crowd" teaching, 607 BCE, the UN fiasco.
In addition to agreeing that these are important issues that deserve answers, he stated that he felt the Org did too much "talking" (putting thousands of pages of their perspective into print) and that they were constantly sticking their nose into things they shouldn't be (i.e., prophesying the end of the world). He even agreed with my feeling that pedophiles shouldn't be going door-to-door.
I told him I could not in good conscience go from door-to-door telling people to join this organization.
He said he could respect my need to not participate in the ministry when my conscience wouldn't allow me to. He could also respect my need to avoid the meetings, as he knew that having difficulties with what was taught/done there yet forcing myself to go would be unhealthy.
He said he could respect my doubts.
But I wasn't allowed to pursue answers to those doubts outside of the Org.
That there was a difference between non-participation because of conscience or deeply-injurious personal offenses and pursuing "something else" through another route.
And that only those questions I came up with myself were alright to have - it wasn't OK to "field" questions posed by opposers/non-Witnesses.
Well, at least I know they don't hate me anymore.