Awakenings

by prophecor 6 Replies latest jw experiences

  • prophecor
    prophecor

    Being infected by WTB&TS propaganda, our intire way in which we relate to the world can often be askewed, especially as it pertains to our relationships. If we are no longer in the truth, but have yet to come to grips with the fact that there is something amiss in Watchtower Theology, any relative dealings with people outside of the organization can be tainted with the fears and failures, unresolved from having been in the truth. We see things from a twisted window of perception. We react to the world in ways we might not normally, if we at least had a basic understanding that the things we once believed as witnesses were just so much utter nonsense.

    As I've gotten some distance between Watchtower teaching and dogma, I found I more effectively relate to the world around me. How much better it would've been to acquire a relationship, had I first been desensitized and de-programmed from the cultish mentality, in fact, now that I'm no longer slave to the organisation and its teachings, every aspect of my dealings with people, regardless for where they are is so completely different. My history, as well the lives of others who I would've have come into contact with.

    Are you finding more joy in your dealings with those who you come into connect with? Do they recognise how you are handling things differently, with more confidence and with a little more flair? Do you think that your dealings with your mate may've faired much better had you met them, long after coming to the truth about Jehovah's Witnesses? What's it like peeking out of your shell as you realise that the outside world is just a little less frightening than you had been lead to believe?

  • cruzanheart
    cruzanheart

    Oh, it's wonderful out here in the Big Bad World! I first had a taste of "worldly" people's emotions when my dad died -- I saw an incredible outpouring of genuine love and caring from my neighbors and workmates that totally stomped on the judgmental JW's who attended his funeral and walked out when we started playing "Amazing Grace."

    Since then, I have let go of my Witness blindfold and seen the world as it is: some people bad, some people good, some people in between. Take each person as they are, irrespective of religious beliefs or my expectations, and enjoy them as human beings. It's pretty cool.

    Nina

  • Dawn
    Dawn

    prophecor: I've been out for a long time now. But I think the best comment about how I have changed since leaving the JW's came just last week from my old boss. I worked for her while I was a JW and during the time I was DF'd - continued to work for her a number of years after that, before moving on to a higher position.

    I had not seen her for about 2 years until last week at a birthday party for a mutual friend. After visiting with her a while she gave me a huge hug and told me, in her words "I'm so proud of who you are today. You have grown so much from who you were when I first met you." And then she told me that she has a couple other JW's working for her now and she hopes that some day they will also see their way out of it.

    I guess that says it all.

  • mjarka911
    mjarka911

    I love being able to encounter new people and sitations as they come without having to view them through a filter of "what I'm supposed to believe".

  • dh
    dh

    great movie, Awakenings with Robert De Niro.

  • findingmyway
    findingmyway

    I am so far from where you all are. Although, I've been df'd several times and this last time for almost 3 years, I have just begun to really try to pull away from the things I was taught as a JW and from the fears that were instilled in me. I do believe that if I had been farther removed from it before I met my current boyfriend we wouldn't have run into so many bumps in the road of our relationship. However, if I hadn't met my current boyfriend when I did, I wouldn't be where I am in my road of self-examination and in my spiritual exploration. He pushed me to break the chains, and thankfully he has been a source of encouragement and has been willing to take this ride with me. So, I'm glad that I met him when I did.

  • Ingenuous
    Ingenuous

    I've actually revived an old friendship that I walked away from when I was still a JW. The person had "insulted" JWs and I decided I couldn't possibly associate with her anymore. I've since apologized/made amends and we've picked-up right where we left off. We're back in each others' lives when we both need friends most. She was so gracious and forgiving and I'm grateful to count her as a friend again.

    Another "associate" who's turned into a very good friend says she can see a huge difference in me. She says I'm more calm and assured, more comfortable in my own skin. She says she's never seen me so settled with myself, so sure and happy with the direction my life is moving in. She's seen me through the worst depression of my existence and hardcore JW years. She's a keeper.

    It helps getting feedback like that - it keeps me from thinking I'm going crazy.

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