Letter to my future child...

by kittyeatzjdubs 8 Replies latest jw friends

  • kittyeatzjdubs
    kittyeatzjdubs

    I promise:

    To celebrate your first birthday and every birthday after that

    To let you have your school friends over on the weekends and after school

    To never force you do something you don't want to do

    To celebrate every holiday with as much pomp and circumstance as you want

    To never invade your privacy

    To never throw tantrums

    To never make you feel guilty for my mistakes

    To never scream at you

    To never hit you anywhere but your padded bottom

    To never leave welts or bruises

    To let you finish high school and graduate

    To encourage you in whatever goals you have after that

    To let you be a cheerleader

    To let you try out for band, football, soccer, baseball...whatever you want

    To let you develop your own personal style

    To not chastise you for whatever sexuality you choose, be it lesbian, gay, or straight

    To love you

    luv, jojo

  • kid-A
    kid-A

    To never hit you anywhere but your padded bottom

    I agreed with everything except this.....it may not leave a physical wound, but it will leave a psychological wound, even if it is padded!!

  • horrible life
    horrible life

    Kitty This is beautiful. You are very wise. Your list is a to do list for all JW households. why? Your future child, will be happy, mentally and emotionally healthy. HL

  • kittyeatzjdubs
    kittyeatzjdubs
    I agreed with everything except this.....it may not leave a physical wound, but it will leave a psychological wound, even if it is padded!!

    see....this is where i'm torn. i would never ever want to hit my child in any way...but i've seen the whole timeout sit in the corner thing, and i've never seen one instance where it worked! the kid was always a flamin' brat!!!

    oh well...maybe i'll give birth to an angel and i'll never have to worry about it.

    thanks HL. you're a sweet person......

    i just hope i don't end up like my parents.

    luv, jojo

  • kid-A
    kid-A

    I agree, it would take alot of restraint to reason with a kid but I think its worth it in the end. Besides, from all the other things you wrote, I think your child will be well balanced enough that you wont have to worry about any spankings anyways. I think we would all like parents like you!!

  • kittyeatzjdubs
    kittyeatzjdubs

    thanks kid-A! i hope i'm that good too.

    luv, jojo

  • Ellie
    Ellie

    Thats lovely, its difficult bringing up children, especially through the terrible 2s as I'm discovering, but keep thinking like that and I'm sure you'll be fine.

  • jaffacake
    jaffacake

    Kitty and KidA

    I agree with both of you. I very occasionally hit my first child in the way you mention until I made a decision not too. I found discipline more effective thereafter.

    Mind you, I don't believe in the namby pamby timeout in the corner approach either. Neither hitting nor timeout approaches work IMHO, although any form of hitting produces the least effective results, sooner or later. Yes I was hit and it didn't do me any harm...and all that..., but there are civilised options that work so much better so why revert to the middle ages?

    It is so very obvious to me that you are such excellent parents.

  • ithinkisee
    ithinkisee

    I know this is an old thread but I just found it.

    With two daughters (7 and 4) that we are going to now raise as non-JWs (even though we are going through the motions right now), this was really great.

    Thanks for that.

    -ithinkisee

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