A couple of months ago, I posted regarding a chat with a sister in my old cong who, despite knowing I'm da'd, was still happy to talk to me. We've spoken a few times since then, both on the phone and face to face, and I have suggested to her that she might get in trouble for having anything to do with me now I've left, but she wasn't worried about it.
Well, she called me a few minutes ago with the news that its got back to the elders that she is "associating" with me depite my status, and they are not happy about it. She had a call from two of them earlier in the evening, they left just before she phoned me, and they warned her to keep away from me, or else! They demanded to know her reasons for wishing to keep in touch with the likes of me (their words), and suggested that maybe our relationship goes a little deeper than mere friendship. She is understandably very upset by that suggestion, we have never been more than friends, and never will be.
However, she said that she has no intention of breaking contact with me, no matter what the elders think, she values my friendship too much for that. I pointed out that this may lead to more and even stronger counsel for her, but she doesn't care. I know from some recent conversations that she has been questioning a few things of late, and that she has looked at the Frreminds site at work, where she has internet access, and done some research into the UN scandal in particular. I don't know how far along the road to hopefully leaving the borg she has gone, and I'm not sure if she's even thinking along those lines just yet, but her attitude to the elders counsel reminds me of me when I first started having doubts. She says she is going to phone me again tomorrow night after the meeting, and if anyone asks her about this she is going to tell them that she is going to do it. I reminded her that may not go down well with the elders and others in the kh, but she just said they can think what they like, she runs her own life, not them.
To be honest, I can barely wait for her call. I would love to see anyone break free of the lie, but especially a close friend, and would actively encourage anyone to do so. I guess I just have to be a bit cautious now though, I don't want to inadvertently push her closer to the borg by trying too hard to get her out, so I'm going to have to think very carefully about what to do and say to her from now on. Any input on this would be welcome, and of course I'll keep you all posted on how it goes.
dedpoet