Posts by marriedtodamob

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Witnesses coming Saturday... I need HELP!!!!

by Globetrotter in

i got into a rather heated discussion this morning with my unbaptised but raised jehovah's witness wife.

we discussed so many things: feb 1 watchtower article on 607 and 1914, the un, beth sarim, blood, god's mouthpiece here on earth, etc.

this was yet another attempt on my part to try to plant a seed of doubt.

Witnesses coming Saturday... I need HELP!!!!

by Globetrotter in

i got into a rather heated discussion this morning with my unbaptised but raised jehovah's witness wife.

we discussed so many things: feb 1 watchtower article on 607 and 1914, the un, beth sarim, blood, god's mouthpiece here on earth, etc.

this was yet another attempt on my part to try to plant a seed of doubt.

marriedtodamob

"Yup, she says she would not allow me a transfusion if I needed one! How can I live with that?!! Those aren't my wishes."

This was the "Icing on the cake for me", GT. It was very wisely pointed out to me by Blondie that having a medical directive is very prudent and I urge you to do this asap. However, it hit me as complete INSANITY that I would have to protect myself from my own husband and his 4th generation JW family! This was when the "NEW LIGHT" really hit me-a true life changing EPIPHANY...

I thank my understanding of GOD that my son is not his...but still the what if's are far to great...

PS-I agree with Estee and others-EXIT STAGE RIGHT on Saturday-you could find a million and one other ways to spend that day! Don't waste it!

So glad you are here!

mobbie

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Witnesses coming Saturday... I need HELP!!!!

by Globetrotter in

i got into a rather heated discussion this morning with my unbaptised but raised jehovah's witness wife.

we discussed so many things: feb 1 watchtower article on 607 and 1914, the un, beth sarim, blood, god's mouthpiece here on earth, etc.

this was yet another attempt on my part to try to plant a seed of doubt.

marriedtodamob

GT says: "The safety of my children and my sanity and ability to lead a normal loving life is more my motivation for trying to get her to see the society for what it is."

This is PRECISELY why I have decided to get out asap-I cannot get my over zealous husband to see diddly squat. I too tried the "find another church or common ground in spiritual matters" route and had the exact same outcome.

Again, when your lifemate holds an entirely different world view than you, it is extremely difficult to find ANY common ground with which to find something positive and hopeful, regardless of ANY other previous problems within the marriage. I would not dream of asking my husband to do anything that would go against his own conscience. However, I can choose whether or not to allow it to continue to affect me and my child. There comes a point of flight or fight-especially when your own children are telling you that they themselves want it all to just STOP.

That is where I personally had to draw the line.

We are here for you GT, and no, you have not taken up too much space or time on this forum-you have no idea who may need this, or what good you can bring about by continuing to share your story and life.

Warmly,

mobbie

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Witnesses coming Saturday... I need HELP!!!!

by Globetrotter in

i got into a rather heated discussion this morning with my unbaptised but raised jehovah's witness wife.

we discussed so many things: feb 1 watchtower article on 607 and 1914, the un, beth sarim, blood, god's mouthpiece here on earth, etc.

this was yet another attempt on my part to try to plant a seed of doubt.

marriedtodamob

bttt

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Witnesses coming Saturday... I need HELP!!!!

by Globetrotter in

i got into a rather heated discussion this morning with my unbaptised but raised jehovah's witness wife.

we discussed so many things: feb 1 watchtower article on 607 and 1914, the un, beth sarim, blood, god's mouthpiece here on earth, etc.

this was yet another attempt on my part to try to plant a seed of doubt.

marriedtodamob

bttt

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Witnesses coming Saturday... I need HELP!!!!

by Globetrotter in

i got into a rather heated discussion this morning with my unbaptised but raised jehovah's witness wife.

we discussed so many things: feb 1 watchtower article on 607 and 1914, the un, beth sarim, blood, god's mouthpiece here on earth, etc.

this was yet another attempt on my part to try to plant a seed of doubt.

marriedtodamob

Wow...there are a lot of great comments here. I MUST reply to this thread as I am also living in this madness as well, at least for awhile longer. Because of the love, commitment and respect for my JW husband, I chose to walk this journey out over this last year of his reinstatement and had to see where it would go. This is my second marriage, and I was not about to see it fail just because of some stupid cult. I love my husband very much, and I had to walk out this very painful journey to learn just what I could and could not live with. That included going through an entire year of no holidays or birthdays, etc. I am so glad I took the journey rather than running at the first sign of disaster, which I could have done so easily.

I personally have come to realize that even though I am knowledgeable, intelligent and extremely capable of doing so, I do not have the emotional energy to take on his elders or his family. For me, it would just be more emotional blackmail. That is just me. I instead have chosen to put my energy into taking care of myself and my son and getting out before it gets much worse. I cannot change anything where my JW husband is concerned-I am completely powerless to do so, and to try for me is more madness and co-dependency.

Peaceful Pete-your comments were almost too eerie for me to read as they are so true to my life, with the exception that I am NOT nor will I EVER be a JW or a closet one.

I must agree that having the Witnesses over is a bad move if one is already pretty well convinced that "the marriage itself is effectively over". It seems clear like many other posters have already commented that there are other marriage difficulties at issue here, and that the JW stuff is perhaps the proverbial "Icing on the cake" or the "Straw that broke the camel's back"

I cannot and will not be able to give you any great wisdom about how to defend yourself against the JW's if you insist on allowing them into your home or she does.

What I can offer is this: Just what is your objective here? If you truly believe in your heart that the marriage is effectively over, why this now? Is there still a shred of hope in your heart for this marriage? What will it take to get you completely out or completely committed to staying in? What are you willing to do and not do? I think those are the questions I would ask myself, and believe me, I have.

Living in limbo day to day has not been healthy for me, and I knew that I could not save anyone but myself from WTBTS. I have learned that I cannot live with it in my home either, but I have had to walk through that this past year to truly understand. Can you truly accept her and love her unconditionally regardless of other marriage issues? Walk it out, talk it out, and make your final decision, but make it soon.

Safe Journey dear friend,

mobbie

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Our new baby girl !!

by Gopher in

veronica was born to proud parents (yourschelbie and me) at 8:30 a.m. this past saturday morning, january 3rd.

she weighed in at almost 7 pounds (3.15 kg) , and is 18 inches (46 cm) long.

we're all doing fine.

marriedtodamob

A BIG HUGE YAHOO AND CONGRATULATIONS FROM THE PACIFIC NW!!!

Being a parent is the most awesome thing in the whole wide world to me...!!!

BRING ON THE BABY PICTURES!!!!

mobbie

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I hate to yank my own chain, but.........

by KKLUV155 in

jw
friends

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happy birthday to me!

marriedtodamob

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

Hope you have lots of , enjoy many , and til you drop!!!

Oh and Cruithe....HAPPY BARD DAY!!!! hahahaha!

mobbie

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Unofficial poll...

by DEDMACHINE in

jw
friends

so i just figured i'd ask what's everybody's background here.. are you:.

a. a jehovah's witness.

b. an ex-baptized witness.

marriedtodamob

WELCOME DED!

NON-JW living with, or otherwise somehow related to what I call "Da Mob"

Otherwise, count me as "Christian, other, and searching".

We look forward to hearing more of your story!

mobbie (soon to be DV'd from Da Mob")

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I Am Mine

by Euphemism in

jw
friends

when the pearl jam single i am mine came out a little over a year ago, i was still a witness.

it's easy to see why the lyrics appealed to me at a time when i was subconsciously trying to free myself from the mind control.. i know that i was born and i know that i?ll die.. the in between is mine.. i am mine.. .... we?re different behind the eyes, there?s no need to hide .

.... the sorrow grows bigger when the sorrow's denied.. i only know my mind.. i am mine.. freedom has been a gradual process.

marriedtodamob

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

It never ceases to amaze this non-witness what I actually do witness on this board...(shaking head in yet more unbelief).

And I think my road is tough to hoe...

Blessings to both of you and hope to meet you in Seattle!

mobbie ( of the DV'd Da Mob class)