Update: Since she conceided about the kids issue she has calmed down somewhat. Though a week or so passed and I was still trying to talk to her about religion and she was constantly in shut down mode.. I lost my cool and started ranting about how she's so blind and doesn't see any of it and all the things I've showed her and even what she's admited it doesn't change her view or mind at all..... Anyway at this point, she could see my total frustration and she said: "I have a confession to make".... I quickly calmed down and she started to open up properly for the first time ever about all this!!!
She started telling me about how she's being paying attention to all the times in the meetings when they tell her to obey the FDS, and she's been remembering things in the past they've said too. She said she thinks it's totally wrong that they said obeying the FDS is like obeying Jehovah, and that she's never going to put her faith in men or obey them. Wow!
She admitted how even during her baptism questions a few years ago something seemed wrong about some of the things she had to agree to (she couldn't quite remember what). But she has since started being way more open about this, and has started pointing out the things that she's been hearing in the meetings. Mostly about control. I think she's ready to watch the Hassan video and will hopefully start to identify many more things.
She also said she was thinking about the GB and how they're changing doctrines could be to do with the different men coming and going from the group, and if that's why how can she possibly trust what they're saying today. She was actually thinking for herself, I've never even said that to her. She concluded that this could be life changing for her!!! She said all she wants after her DF is to get reinstated and then to fade. She has said a few times she's actually scared for her family because she's worried what the FDS will say next, like something that could cause them to harm themselves.
She is worried about the shunning, but she's willing to tell her family soon about us. I showed her the FAQs on jw.org about shunning and at first she got excited, but then said "yeah but my mom is SO indoctrinated it won't make a difference". She also admitted to being very indoctrinated herself.
Do you think she's finally starting to wake up? or am I getting excited for nothing? I can still see this process taking a very long time, I'm under no illusion. But from the above I think she's made great progress. I mean, when we do talk about things now, she is waaaaay more open minded, but still very defensive, and is quick to say I'm being disrespectful. I have to approach with caution but it's way better than before.