Luge62, I agree with Frazzled. I came to this site in a very similar situation, I was blind to most things JW even though I'd done a lot of research... that said, I didn't just run away as many people advised.. it's not that easy when you love someone as you know. But please listen still as this is not an easy path to follow. Fortunately I was able to wake my partner up to the truth about this cult, but it's still difficult. We live together but she has been shunned by all of her family for the past year, with no end in sight as she doesn't want to get reinstated.
That is what this cult does, it divides families and breaks apart homes. There's is nothing good in it. I'm sure you love your woman, but be prepared for a long hard road ahead. If you get together and she stays in the cult, she will be forever trying to convert you, and if you resist she will start seeing you as belonging to satan. My partner thought for the longest time I was sent by satan to bring her out of the religion, that was pretty shocking to hear later on once she had woken up. She now feels bad that she thought that way, but it's how she was trained to think. Anyone not a JW is part of satans world..