Posts by MissFit

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My JW friend turned down the "privilege" of working the literature table at the park. Why?

by MissFit in

i have written before about my jw friend that plays hookie with me on sundays.

we skip the meeting and go straight to lunch and margaritas.

she converted later in life and has been a jw for over 25 years.. she is in her late 70's and has had heart problems.

My JW friend turned down the "privilege" of working the literature table at the park. Why?

by MissFit in

i have written before about my jw friend that plays hookie with me on sundays.

we skip the meeting and go straight to lunch and margaritas.

she converted later in life and has been a jw for over 25 years.. she is in her late 70's and has had heart problems.

MissFit

Hi everyone... I just had to tell you I stumbled across one of those literature cart things at the I park.

I was with some co- workers at the park on a work related errand. I walked past the display and did a double take... I just noticed it out of the corner of my eye before I registered that it was a WT display. At first I thought it was a promotional brochure display for the city. Then I noticed 2 elderly people sitting on a bench off a little from the display. They did say hello as we walked by.

As my co-workers and I got into our vehicle I heard one co-worker ask another

🙍" were those 2 people with that display?"

🙇 " yes" 😱

🙍"oh , I wasn't sure at first, What group are they from?"

🙇" Some Christian group? "

👴" yeah, I'll think of their name in a minute. Those are Watchtowers."

*I am completely silent. I have absolutely nothing to say. I am wondering if she will think of the name. I will not volunteer it. *

👴" I remember, 😧 Jehovah' Witnesses."

End of conversation.

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How do we set up a "Used New Bike Fund" for Terry?

by BucketShopBill in

jw
friends

is there any way we can try to start a crowd-fund to help terry get some wheels quicker than he currently can?

with craigslist and a couple of bucks from a few members we can help terry get moving.

does anyone have any ideas how we can do a "theists for terry" bike fund raiser and challenge the atheists to a bucket-head challenge?

MissFit

Dismember: give me a break. " high horse" really😅?

Pot meet kettle.😳

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Reflections on 1 year WT Free-breaking the chains...

by MissFit in

hi everyone.. i just realized that it has been over a year since i discovered this site and started to recognize i was shackled by invisible chains.

i am still in the process of chipping away on those chains.. i posted on another thread how these threads here are like little time capsules.

the moment, the emotions, the attitudes are all there frozen.. .

MissFit

Thank you for the well wishes Lisa Rose. I have always enjoyed your posts. I have learned alot from them.

Humbled: I too have sensed a kinship with you. I have followed some of your journey and have been fascinated by your story. I have seen a shifting of your viewpoint since the first thread a I got to "meet" you on. ( the prayer thread .. concrete proof that prayers are answered. People who felt their prayers were answered were constantly asked for concrete proof). I enjoyed your posts on that thread.

Prof: this site has enabled me to look at the Organization in a different way.

I did not realize that we were being asked to substitute the Organization for jehovah and Jesus. But now I can tell that in the publications and talks they interchange God with the F&DS.

When I told my husband ( who is not a JW) That now the GB (8 men) were the ones that were in charge and were said to have the spirit direction, he said oh now JWs have 8 popes. Catholics only have one.

smiddy: I agree.This site showed me that I wasn't alone. There were so many people here that were posting my thoughts and experiences similar to mine.

Sometimes I had to check to make sure it wasn't my avatar just in case I was sleep posting.😞😉

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How do we set up a "Used New Bike Fund" for Terry?

by BucketShopBill in

jw
friends

is there any way we can try to start a crowd-fund to help terry get some wheels quicker than he currently can?

with craigslist and a couple of bucks from a few members we can help terry get moving.

does anyone have any ideas how we can do a "theists for terry" bike fund raiser and challenge the atheists to a bucket-head challenge?

MissFit

Bucket shop bill: you are a very giving and empathetic person with a big heart.

Dont let others dampen your spirit. There is no way you will ever please everyone.

I am glad you started this thread because the first reaction I had when I read about Terry's bike was how can I help. I suggest keeping that link open and let people contribute if they want.

Dismember: how do you know if some of those people you mentioned didnt get help privately? It is not bucket's fault if no one offered to help those people.

He was moved to help someone he knows needs it. Good for him.

Miss.Fit

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More friction with jw wife regarding moms bday bbq.

by marriedtoajw in

the wife is starting to pull away from my family.

its my fault but i couldnt help it.

my fault because for years my sistets were indifferent to my wifes jwness.

MissFit

Married toaJW: its the guilt. Is your wife a born in? If so she has been taught all her life that every thing she does is being monitored by Satan & his demons andJehovah & His angels to see if we will keep our integrity.

Every thing is a test to see how faithful we will be to Jehovah. And of course we know what god expects through the direction and instruction from the Society.

I hope your wife had a good time.

I am married to a nonJW myself.

When I was a practicing JW , I used to feel guilty for going to his grandma's birthday bbq.

It was a huge affair with all of my husband's family. It was more of a family reunion around the time of grandma's birthday .

I got good at rationalizing why it was okay to go.

1.This was the only time the whole family was together.

2. It would have hurt Grandma' s feelings and maybe make JWs look bad.

3. No presents were exchanged.

4. It wasn't on her actual birth date.

The point is if you can reframe the event so your wife can rationalize it to herself, she won't feel like she is compromising.

(Instead of birthday party- family reunion, instead of christmas dinner😑-family dinner ect.

It worked for me.

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Reflections on 1 year WT Free-breaking the chains...

by MissFit in

hi everyone.. i just realized that it has been over a year since i discovered this site and started to recognize i was shackled by invisible chains.

i am still in the process of chipping away on those chains.. i posted on another thread how these threads here are like little time capsules.

the moment, the emotions, the attitudes are all there frozen.. .

MissFit

Thank you Simon for providing this forum. I wish I had something like this available to me when I was physically fading.

Actually I probably would have been too afraid to visit a site like this.

I am so glad I accidentally found this site. I am still learning a lot.

You are right it does take awhile to get rid of the guilt and impending doom.

It is liberating to understand on an intellectual level why I was feeling the guilt and to know there is nothing to feel guilt about.

I was talking to my JW sister snd she mentioned how guilty she felt for missing the meetings and service because she had been so ill.

I told her there was nothing to be guilty about. Jehovah knows her heart. I also mentioned that maybe the guilt might be one of the reasons she is so ill.

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Reflections on 1 year WT Free-breaking the chains...

by MissFit in

hi everyone.. i just realized that it has been over a year since i discovered this site and started to recognize i was shackled by invisible chains.

i am still in the process of chipping away on those chains.. i posted on another thread how these threads here are like little time capsules.

the moment, the emotions, the attitudes are all there frozen.. .

MissFit

Heaven says:" I no longer feel it is necessary to judge others"

Ditto. I am glad you have found a way to be happy and that you are nightmare free.

It is a relief to know that my family and I are not living a death sentence.

I never realized how much I was being controlled by fear.Displease god ( and by extension the organization) and no paradise for you.

Totally ADD and reopened mind: Congratulations. You really know you're out when you stop referring to the days as meeting days, service days, but actually by the day of the week.

Its so nice to make plans and not have to check if it is on a meeting night. My work schedule is so much easier. I work the shifts I'm given guilt free.

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Reflections on 1 year WT Free-breaking the chains...

by MissFit in

hi everyone.. i just realized that it has been over a year since i discovered this site and started to recognize i was shackled by invisible chains.

i am still in the process of chipping away on those chains.. i posted on another thread how these threads here are like little time capsules.

the moment, the emotions, the attitudes are all there frozen.. .

MissFit

Realising that the JWs do not have "the truth" and the society does not have a direct line to god is very freeing.

I personally do not feel it is my mission to expose the Watchword or change anyone's mind.

What people want to believe is their own business.

I have noticed my relationship with my daughters have gotten closer.

They do not censor themselves with me anymore. All topics are on the table.

It feels good to be able to discuss anything openly.

I still have a ways to go on my journey, but I am enjoying the ride.

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Reflections on 1 year WT Free-breaking the chains...

by MissFit in

hi everyone.. i just realized that it has been over a year since i discovered this site and started to recognize i was shackled by invisible chains.

i am still in the process of chipping away on those chains.. i posted on another thread how these threads here are like little time capsules.

the moment, the emotions, the attitudes are all there frozen.. .

MissFit

Thank you all for your responses.

I have really appreciated the JWN community on this site.

There were things I didn't even know that I didn't know. For example logical fallacies... the links really helped. I would never have looked them up because I didnt know they existed.

I am in an uniquely fortunate situation regarding fading.

I am married to a non-JW, my children never embraced the"truth", my JW mom lives clear across the country from me, I have been physically in and out of the org. for over 20 years.

The difference for me is now I am mentally out.

I don't have very many social ties.

It has almost been a year since I went to a meeting. I did not go to the conventions or memorial.

I am keeping an open mind regarding god or a creator.

Data dog: I hear you. That is one of the hardest concept to get used to...death being final.

I think acknowledging that can also make life more meaningful.

No do overs. This is the only life we have.

I am finding that I am getting to be more comfortable in my own skin also.