Posts by MissFit

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What makes a "good Jehovah's Witness"??

by stuckinarut2 in

so, i have been thinking...what is the formula or recipe for the "perfect jw"?.

here are a few points i thought of...please feel free to add!.

always dress in the jw manner...no variation in clothing / hair styles / facial hair.

MissFit

Stay away from anything related to the supernatural...

Watch what you say out loud...Satan will use your desires against you.

If you suspect demons, go through your house and burn any suspect item. Don't forget to say Jehovah over and over.

Make sure you know who the exemplary ones are in the congergation and avoid anyone spiritually weak...Except for CO visits, Memorial season and when you are pioneering.

Call on Spiritually weak members when you need to finish up your time for the month.

Remember anytime you say Jehovah's name to worldly people...including unbelieving family... you can count time.

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Reflections on 1 year WT Free-breaking the chains...

by MissFit in

hi everyone.. i just realized that it has been over a year since i discovered this site and started to recognize i was shackled by invisible chains.

i am still in the process of chipping away on those chains.. i posted on another thread how these threads here are like little time capsules.

the moment, the emotions, the attitudes are all there frozen.. .

MissFit

Sunny: Best wishes on your continuing journey of enlightenment.

It really makes a big difference when you can both intellectually and emotionally break free.. being out physically is not enough ,identifying the falshoods and the manipulation tactics help in staying free.

Purging the indoctrination and guilt is an on going process. I am so grateful for the support of this site.

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Reflections on 1 year WT Free-breaking the chains...

by MissFit in

hi everyone.. i just realized that it has been over a year since i discovered this site and started to recognize i was shackled by invisible chains.

i am still in the process of chipping away on those chains.. i posted on another thread how these threads here are like little time capsules.

the moment, the emotions, the attitudes are all there frozen.. .

MissFit

Thank you Simon. I guess JWs don't have the market cornered on shunning.

The thing is they have no clue what is going on in my life now. They have a preconceived idea based on out dated information.

But what really irks me is that I was always there for them JW or not, DF or not. I never shunned them.

I guess if she wants to die alone , there is not much I can do and I'm not sure I want to spend the energy it would take just to get slapped down. I guess i'll just start saving for the funeral. I think she would rather have the money anyway

At least I dont have to worry about giving a good witness.

He can go @#@# himself and stick $#@$*$'# (deleted not fit to print. Im thinking words I haven't said in years.)

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Reflections on 1 year WT Free-breaking the chains...

by MissFit in

hi everyone.. i just realized that it has been over a year since i discovered this site and started to recognize i was shackled by invisible chains.

i am still in the process of chipping away on those chains.. i posted on another thread how these threads here are like little time capsules.

the moment, the emotions, the attitudes are all there frozen.. .

MissFit

I just found out the doctors told my sis if she has regular dialysis treatments and follows doctors instructions she might live another 3 years. Otherwise maybe up to one year.

My sister has been living on borrowed time for years. She is so contrary- she probably won't did until the day they say she is cured.

My nephew is being a little turd. He refuses to talk to me directly.

I figure when it gets critical hopefully he will get off his high horse and call.

He'll probably want me to chip in for the funeral.*sighs* I hate this cr@p.😦*face palm*

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How old were you when baptized?

by Coded Logic in

i was baptized at the age of 11. like most of us, my commitment wasnt to honor god but rather i was gang pressed into the service of the wtbts.

and, at such a young age, it was impossible for me to appreciate the enormity of my actions.

honestly, how could i possibly have known any better?

MissFit

I am so glad I never encouraged my kids to get baptized.

I would have walked away when I was 18 if I hadnt been baptized. I spent over 30 years trying to live up to a commitment I didn't even understand.

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Reverse Shunning

by exwhyzee in

someting happened yesterday that i thought might be noteworty enough to relate to you here.. mrs. eyz and i were invited to my new boss's home for his annual end of summer party.

it's a pretty big deal....his is a name known locally (i'll call him j.r.) a really nice interesting guy who's held a number of high level and politically connected jobs.

there was to be music, dancing, wine and reprotedly lots of well dressed, well educated, well to do and influential people (oh yes...and us) in attendance.. anyway we thought we'd make an occasion out of it and got ourselves spiffed up which involved new outfits and extra mirror time before we left home.

MissFit

Maybe that is what more of us should do when faced with begrudgingly token acknowledgments. They thought they were doing you a favor by greeting you.

I liked the way you let them know they were not acceptable association for you.

You got to be the one who decided. Great example.

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RIP at least the world didn't get him, words of comfort?

by MissFit in

to my grieving sister about the death of her only son almost 2 year ago.

he was 25.. we were having lunch when she repeated those words of"wisdom" from one of her jw in-laws.

this is a hard month for her.

MissFit

Pete: I didn't realize they would be thinking their last thought when they were resurrected. I always thought they would wake up like they were sleeping.

That is what comforted me. I guess every religion has their own fantasy to help them grieve.

Steve: you are not the only one.

My nephew's death was harder on me than the previous losses because I had learned TTATT and knew that death was final. It was harder to find and give comfort.

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RIP at least the world didn't get him, words of comfort?

by MissFit in

to my grieving sister about the death of her only son almost 2 year ago.

he was 25.. we were having lunch when she repeated those words of"wisdom" from one of her jw in-laws.

this is a hard month for her.

MissFit

I was wondering what other phrases you have heard that was supposed to be comforting but if looked at closely was offensive or made you feel worse?

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I put the kingdom first! Now look what happened...

by Julia Orwell in

i put the kingdom first - by sheree stokell.

so they dunked me in a pool.

armageddon would be here soon.

MissFit

Julia: the hypocrisy and the futility came across loud and clear. I think it touched a cord in a lot of people. Thanks for expressing it so well.

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Trying to Salvage a Friendship

by Quendi in

my friends,.

i need your counsel on a personal matter, and i hope you will give it in love.

as some of you know, i was disfellowshipped six years ago, but it wasn't until june 2010 that i made up my mind never to return to the wts.

MissFit

Maybe he is too embarrassed and does not think he is worthy of your friendship. He is not used to unconditional love.

Sometimes you have to just move on, but I suspect if he reaches out that you would be there for him.