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  Ten Signs you're a fundamentalist christian

  by IronGland in

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  10 - you vigorously deny the existence of thousands of gods claimed by other religions, but feel outraged when someone denies the existence of yours.. .

  9 - you feel insulted and "dehumanized" when scientists say that people evolved from other life forms, but you have no problem with the biblical claim that we were created from dirt.. .

  8 - you laugh at polytheists, but you have no problem believing in a triune god.. .

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  maybesbabies

  LOL!! This is perfect!!!
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  RSVP for my wedding!!!

  by maybesbabies in

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  this is an open invitation to my wedding.

  if you would like to rsvp, please email me at tamarlively at gmail dot com.

  i will base my location and guest list around this.

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  maybesbabies

  bttt
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  RSVP for my wedding!!!

  by maybesbabies in

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  this is an open invitation to my wedding.

  if you would like to rsvp, please email me at tamarlively at gmail dot com.

  i will base my location and guest list around this.

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  Hi all!! This is an open invitation to my wedding. If you would like to RSVP, please email me at tamarlively at gmail dot com. I will base my location and guest list around this. If you respond, I will send you the address. The date is May 28, Memorial Day weekend. Please, it is very important that folks don't tell me they will come and cancel at the last minute!!! I'm trying to have as inexpensive of a wedding as possible, so every dollar counts! Thanks in advance!

  Tamar and Guy
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  Do ALL men cheat??

  by ChakkaConned in

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  i was watching an old eddie murphy hbo special a few weeks ago where he was talking about relationships.

  in his bit, he went off on how all men cheat on their wives and girlfriends.

  he was adamant that even the nicest of guys will take the opportunity to cheat if given the chance and that women need to understand that this is the way it is, 100% of the time.

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  maybesbabies

  Perhaps my situation is unique, but I've never been cheated on. I have cheated though. I was a bit younger, less mature, and when I felt unappreciated, or not sexy enough, yeah, I'd cheat. I'd go out on the prowl, even. What I wanted was not sex, though it would lead to that occasionally, but for someone to tell me I was smart, funny, and yes, sexy. It wouldn't be a one night stand type of thing. It would invariably start out with meeting someone who had the same interests as me, forming a friendship based around mutual attraction, and then eventually giving in to my baser desires. At that point in my life, I was just a teenager, married to a man a few years older than me, who had absolutely no interest in my hopes, dreams, desires. I was expected to work, cook, clean, and cater to his every whim. I WAS the proto-typical good wife. But, I was (and am) also a singer, a writer, a painter, a social butterfly, a drinker, smoker, and toker, all things that my husband hated about me. It wasn't bad the first two years, until I found myself so far under his thumb that I felt trapped every day. So, cheating was my release. I would find someone who could talk about art and fine writing, who would go to the park with me for a picnic and drink wine, who would take me out dancing, who valued my intelligence, who would go to the art museum with me, and tell me which artist my paintings reminded him of, someone who basically just paid attention to me. Sex would get involved, true, but it was more of an after thought than anything, and it was always far more passionate than the two seconds of face-down humping I would get twice a week. My husband paid so little attention to me that he didn't even notice that I was never home. We worked opposite shifts, and I would clean the house in a tizzy the moment I got home, which gave me time to go out and be bad. We finally divorced, when I realized that I could make it on my own just fine, and that it was me supporting him, not the other way around. Now, I finally understand myself a lot better, and have stopped crushing myself under the wheels of low self esteem. I also know that the only way my partner would cheat on me is if I treated him the way I had been treated in the past. Having been a cheater, I know how to prevent it in both of us. And, if he ever did cheat on me, I would only want to know what went wrong in our relationship, and how we could fix it. [/rant]
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  Shopping for a new bed

  by Elsewhere in

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  it looks like my bed had just about had it and it's time to get another one... but i have no idea how to shop for one.

  i've tried looking at review web sites, but there are very few with almost no information.

  something i keep seeing at the stores are the "no turn" mattresses.

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  maybesbabies

  Oi Elswhere, worn yer bed out already, 'ave ya? (wink wink, nudge nudge, know wot I mean? ) You dog!!!
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  My husband's new blood papers are in the trash???

  by wordlywife in

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  i don't know what the new terminology is for the forms, but that paperwork, already signed by him (i refuse all blood, etc.

  ), is in the trash.

  i found it while looking for some schoolwork of my daughter's.

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  maybesbabies

  I think it was Pink who said "be extra loving towards him", and I agree that that might help him open up. He sounds (and this is just my opinion, mind you) like a poor communicator to begin with, and perhaps doesn't feel that he can talk to you. This is not anyones fault, some people are just hard wired that way. Perhaps some love and affection, a smile for him, kisses, etc. mentioning "I will always be here for you". You probably do this anyway, but maybe it will be the straw that breaks the camels back, since he may be on the brink of cracking. I've heard more than one story of a spouse finally realizing that their worldly(god I hate that word!) partner was there for them, after thinking that they couldn't possibly understand. The religion can drive such a wedge between partners, that the JW partner can't see what they have right in front of them, their best friend and partner. Of course, I could be utterly wrong, but some times the tenderness of a mate when you feel that the world is falling down around you can bring you back to what is real.

  P.S. Love the way you put it, Jgnat!!
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  Ladies.....do you enjoy a good cigar now and then?

  by Sunnygal41 in

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  lol..........so, okay, every once in a while, i enjoy smoking a cigar............right now, i'm enjoying a backwoods sweet aromatic...........i love the taste.........it's very mild...........and, i'm enjoying an after dinner shot of romana black...........please share at your leisure and pleasure...........

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  It's not so strange, sis! Think of what we went through, and our mom being a smoker. It's not weird at all!! I'm a smoker, and I'm sure I got it from mom, a sort of weird way of bonding with her after her passing. For me, pipes and cigars are a comfort smell, can't explain it either! I do know that I love the taste of a fine cigar (not all from Cuba are bad from drying out, especially when you have a direct connection and a walk-in humidor!), but that has been cultured in me from being around people who smoke them. One day, I had to try one, and loved it!
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  The decade is now half over....

  by Leolaia in

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  for those of you who are not stunned thinking "where has all the time gone?

  ", what would you say about the decade we've now in?

  do you think world conditions are worse than in the '90s?

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  maybesbabies

  LOL!! You're right Leo, I like the movies you posted! I don't watch television, so perhaps I am jaded in this department. When I go to someones house, and they have all the reality crap on or whatever, I nearly harf!!!! There must be some good, perhaps I should look a little deeper for it!
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  my take...

  by teejay in

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  ... on the watchtower society.

  i am not one who will ever bother to waste my time heaping praise on the jw religion as though it were some kind of improvement on society.

  i have no qualms in saying that it was, is, and always will be a dangerous religion ?

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  The part about not being afraid to stand up and be different is good.

  I haven't read the rest of the posts, so please forgive me if this has been covered. I tried to stand up and be different. Different from the JW's!!! That sure as hell does not fly with them, and so it taught me that it's bad to be different from your "crowd". The good that I can come away with was not from the JW's, I've questioned and been beaten down by them since I was a child. The good that I came away with was from seeing in action the human spirit, people who cared for us. None of them were JW's. My third grade teacher actually took me in when we were living cold and homeless, with my family on the run from CPS. Many people helped us and took us in over the years, and none of them were JW's. I also learned the bad. The people that hurt me, none of them were JW's. So, for me, the religion had no effect. I lived in many neighborhoods that were of mixed ethnicity, and all my friends were of different races and cultures. I didn't need the JW's to teach me tolerance. To me, it also doesn't depend on the quality of ones parents. Mine were far from exemplary. But I turned out alright. Look at people who never grew up as JW's. I know many who were raised by crackheads, who turned out fine. I know many who were raised by wonderful people who shake their heads and say "where did my child go wrong". It's me who has all the power in the world, period.

  On a side note:

  Bradley, STFU.

  You are a totally jaded individual. I'm sure stopthepain knows that he is the only one who can fix his/her life. Why do you harp on someone who needs to vent and greive? I'll be goddamned if I will be little Mary Sunshine, "framing the negative in a positive light". "Oh, I think being molested was a good thing now!" Bullshit. If someone is hurting they need to go through the grieving process. If you have, good for you. If you haven't, isn't that what this F*&KING board is for? Why don't you back off and save your self righteous psychoanalysis for someone else?!?!??!??!
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  The decade is now half over....

  by Leolaia in

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  for those of you who are not stunned thinking "where has all the time gone?

  ", what would you say about the decade we've now in?

  do you think world conditions are worse than in the '90s?

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  maybesbabies

  LOL Narkissos!!! Hmm, good question, Leo. I'm not too fond of how the last 5 years have been, I can only hope the next five are better. I didn't like the fashion, didn't like the music, didn't like much of the "Oh Oh's" at all. Ah well, perhaps I'm just a complainer! BTW, has anyone noticed that the greatest change in each decade tends to come in the last 5 years? I'm interested to see what will happen.