OneEyedJoe

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  Who leaves first, the husband or wife?

  by snugglebunny in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when it comes to a simple matter of no longer believing the teachings of jw's, it appears to me that it's more common for the husband to make the first move to leave the religion.

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  OneEyedJoe

  Thanks FMF haha.

  And after all... isn't all this anger just....emotional response
  

  
  
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  Who leaves first, the husband or wife?

  by snugglebunny in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when it comes to a simple matter of no longer believing the teachings of jw's, it appears to me that it's more common for the husband to make the first move to leave the religion.

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  OneEyedJoe

  Well I'm certainly no neurologist, so its entirely feasible that I've made some logical leaps that aren't supported. If I have time maybe I'll dig up the original study and re-read it to make sure I'm not missing some big piece, but it may not be worth the effort since I think we agree on the greater point - men and women are (generally speaking) wired differently and in aggregate this can result in a slight skew when observing behavior of one gender compared to the other in specific circumstances.
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  Who leaves first, the husband or wife?

  by snugglebunny in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when it comes to a simple matter of no longer believing the teachings of jw's, it appears to me that it's more common for the husband to make the first move to leave the religion.

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  OneEyedJoe

  So women are better are engaging in mythical activity than men?!?

  Now we're getting into semantics. The word multitasking is commonly used to describe a situation in which you perform small portions of disparate tasks interleaved with one another. Women tend to take less of a performance hit when task-switching than do men, in some narrow circumstances.

  I feel like we're getting way off track, the point was that men are different than women. and I suspect that there are few people who can seriously disagree with that.
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  Who leaves first, the husband or wife?

  by snugglebunny in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when it comes to a simple matter of no longer believing the teachings of jw's, it appears to me that it's more common for the husband to make the first move to leave the religion.

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  OneEyedJoe

  Lol, you gave him too many things to do!
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  Who leaves first, the husband or wife?

  by snugglebunny in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when it comes to a simple matter of no longer believing the teachings of jw's, it appears to me that it's more common for the husband to make the first move to leave the religion.

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  OneEyedJoe

  I would love to see you try this phraseology in a thread about religion versus evolution and watch some of our posters make mincemeat of it.

  haha. I was thinking that exact thing as I wrote it.

  On the topic of multitasking, I wasn't saying that anyone becomes more productive while juggling multiple tasks (this is the myth part of it) I was saying that women are better at it than men. This usually simply means that they take less of a productivity hit when multitasking than do men.

  Google is indeed my friend:
  http://www.bbc.com/news/science-environment-24645100

  It's a fruitless debate, though, if everyone's going to take offense and read things into it when they're not there. Hopefully this doesn't devolve any further, as I am somewhat interested in everyone's experience even if the methodology will undoubtedly lead to very skewed statistics.

  Thanks FMF. I knew while writing my first post that it was only a matter of time until someone reframed it as some kind of misogynist propaganda. I did it anyway.

  And for what it's worth, I'd love to have the emotional intelligence that my wife has. It's really inconvenient when I say something that in my mind is completely innocent and it puts someone in tears.
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  Who leaves first, the husband or wife?

  by snugglebunny in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when it comes to a simple matter of no longer believing the teachings of jw's, it appears to me that it's more common for the husband to make the first move to leave the religion.

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  OneEyedJoe

  Another thought - men frequently tend to go where their wives lead in maters of religion, so its possible that when the women wake up first, the men follow more quickly afterward. This would leave fewer women looking for support online.

  On the topic of the INTJs on forums, I've found that we're always drastically over-represented on online forums, so it may not be a case that we're more likely to wake up, but that we're more likely to go talk online about it.
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  Who leaves first, the husband or wife?

  by snugglebunny in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when it comes to a simple matter of no longer believing the teachings of jw's, it appears to me that it's more common for the husband to make the first move to leave the religion.

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  OneEyedJoe

  Just spit-balling here, I hope the women don't take offense at any of this...

  Another factor at play could potentially be that women are more likely to leave at a younger age if they're going to leave at all. If they leave before getting married it's entirely possible that women could be leaving at a higher rate, while married men are leaving at a higher rate than married women. This would also have the effect of leaving more indoctrinated women in the cult as the ones getting married, which would lead you to expect that married men would be more likely to wake up first.

  There's also (reportedly) a surplus of women in the cult, which could lead them to be more likely to look for a mate outside the cult, in which case they would likely leave but would not really have a place in this poll since their husband would never have been in the cult.

  There's a ton of factors at play here.
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  Who leaves first, the husband or wife?

  by snugglebunny in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when it comes to a simple matter of no longer believing the teachings of jw's, it appears to me that it's more common for the husband to make the first move to leave the religion.

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  OneEyedJoe

  Ok I'm just going to say it. I cannot believe men are still churning out the bullshit about they are more rational and women are more emotional. Don't you remember where you learnt this bullshit? You think you are free of WTS teachings?

  I didn't learn that from the cult...It's indisputable that men and women are wired a bit differently. I don't remember the source, but I've read a study that demonstrated that women, for instance, demonstrate a much greater ability to multitask, both physically and mentally. Men tend to think about one thing at a time, and compartmentalize a little more, which lends itself to a greater separation between reason and emotion. I'm sure there's also some cultural influence on this as well, but our brains are physically different. That's not to say that women can't reason and all men are emotionless, the difference is much more subtle than that. It's probably trivial to find two women or two men that differ to a greater extent than the average difference caused by gender, but we're talking about trends and averages here.

  I also don't think anyone here was making an evaluation that one way was necessarily better in general than the other.

  That said, if you have any information that contradicts that, I'd love to see it. I never like to spend any more time being wrong than I have to.

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  It is not about emotional vs. rational, rather about the ability to incorporate emotion into rational decision making
  

  This is well put and the point that I was initially trying to drive at.
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  Who leaves first, the husband or wife?

  by snugglebunny in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when it comes to a simple matter of no longer believing the teachings of jw's, it appears to me that it's more common for the husband to make the first move to leave the religion.

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  OneEyedJoe

  DB - I'm not sure you read the OP....

  Another husband first here. In my case I'm sure it's because of a number of aspects of my personality, some of which are likely due to my gender. I'm not very social, and I'm more confident in my ability to think for myself than my wife, both of which make leaving easier. I'm also an INTJ (personality that is least likely to believe in god(s) and also has a higher incidence in males.).

  Women tend to think a little more emotionally, and since cults rely heavily on emotional manipulation, this may be a disadvantage. On the other hand, that may just change how they wake up, since there's certainly plenty of emotional abuse in the cult. In some places women are also more likely to be under socialized since they may be less likely to work or they stay home and take care of the kids, etc whereas men may have more of a social structure at work. This could certainly lead to a higher dependence on the cult and therefore make it less likely that they'd be willing to leave.

  All of these factors are by no means universal and probably only make incremental impact on the likelyhood of leaving though, and I don't think the difference between men and women leaving is necessarily huge. An informal poll here may also be somewhat skewed, since it seems like men are more likely to take to internet forums than women (at least I'm assuming that's the case based solely on the leg humping that always occurs on forums when it is discovered that a poster is a woman)
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  2034 is going to be a huge letdown for the dubs

  by wha happened? in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i've seen a few postings of a possible "next date" for dubs of 2034. based on an article they published comparing the last days to the days of noah.

  preaching for 120 years.

  however, i noticed a little tidbit from wiki about age:.

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  OneEyedJoe

  Haha thanks. I've been around for a while, but it's always nice to know I'm still welcome