Thanks for the replies.
I don't expect Kieth will ever forget that moment.
We worked together as builders, I know all of his family, he's going to dwell.
Check this out:
When he was DFd, I came across him leaving a grocery store. I didn't hesitate and shook his hand immediately. He was appalled, looked down and walked away as if I led him into sin. Poor man.
Both his adult sons are 'out', as well.
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As a side point, I drove past a fully manned ( sistered? ) lit cart today, four of them.
I went by real slow, got eye contact with all of them and showed a very emphatic 'thumbs down'.
All those council points for gestures finally paid off!!