Posts by FlyingHighNow

Here in Michigan, we had a longer winter with several feet of snow and frigid temperatures. We thought it would never end. Sooo, this year, I am not thrilled to see summer end.

Usually, I do love Autumn, but when the frosts come, my container garden will die. I enjoy my garden immensely.

I'm an October baby, so I do love October. I love Thanksgiving. I hate shoes though, so wearing shoes is a pain in the backside.

One of my favorite songs about Autumn, from my teenaged years.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NIHeLafUPas

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Divorcing my husband of 13 years...

by 2pink in

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friends

my husband and i were both born ins.

i left in 2009, and he followed me out a bit later.

we were one of those couples who followed the script, married young and ended up having nothing in common other than the religion.

I wish you well. It's very apparent that you love all of your children so much. You're investigating the legalities and seeking the advice and experience of others. Maybe there are other parents of special needs kids, that have been through divorce, in your area where you can draw some support and ideas about resources.

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How Often Do You Come To JWN? How Often Do You Post?

by minimus in

jw
friends

do you check this site, daily?.

do you post very much?.

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FlyingHighNow

I am sporadic. Sometimes I miss 2 or 3 weeks of reading or posting. Then there are times I check a few days in a row and nothing catches my interest. If I am posting on a thread or two that is very active, I might be back days in a row posting. I can go a month without posting,

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Divorcing my husband of 13 years...

by 2pink in

jw
friends

my husband and i were both born ins.

i left in 2009, and he followed me out a bit later.

we were one of those couples who followed the script, married young and ended up having nothing in common other than the religion.

FlyingHighNow

It's easy for men, who may be making good salaries and never had to raise kids full time, much less raise kids and work fulltime, to say just leave.

Lisa is right, you have to make the right decision for you and the children. Be aware that what can seem like a good decision at the time, can have so many unforseen cibsequences. All I am saying is really, really think this through. Look at what kind of quality of life and environment there will be for you and your children. You'll be choosing a different lifestyle and family culture.

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Divorcing my husband of 13 years...

by 2pink in

jw
friends

my husband and i were both born ins.

i left in 2009, and he followed me out a bit later.

we were one of those couples who followed the script, married young and ended up having nothing in common other than the religion.

FlyingHighNow

Unless he is falling down, stinking drunk, driving drunk with the kids in the car, beating on you guys and yelling at you when he is drunk, depriving you of food, necessities and medical care, it might be better to live in the same home, but have an understanding. I am still hollow inside from my dad leaving our home when I was 9. Our family was disentigrated by my parent's divorce. Having Dad around would have kept my mother happier and we would not have felt abandoned and unimportant to him. We kids are still hurting and we are all over 50. My oldest brother dropped out of his senior year in high school with straight A's after my parent's divorce. He backpacked and hitchhiked all over the USA and he died at 22, feeling very lost and wandering.

There are situations where divorce is necessary though: sexual abuse being one reason.

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Divorcing my husband of 13 years...

by 2pink in

jw
friends

my husband and i were both born ins.

i left in 2009, and he followed me out a bit later.

we were one of those couples who followed the script, married young and ended up having nothing in common other than the religion.

FlyingHighNow

Are you sure you want to do this? Unless there is severe neglect, drug or severe alcohol abuse or physical or abuse, think very twice about doing this while you have kids in the home.

My ex and I separated when my son was 16. It proved disasterous for him. This is an understatement.

What would I do differently? Go back in time to my stay at home mom status. I'd go to school while the kids were at school. Once they were both over 18, I'd have gone to work and saved, saved, saved money.

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Posters do you know of any cases where a devout JW was DF'd for Lesbianism?

by booker-t in

i think this is a hush hush topic among jws but i remember years ago at an assembly i saw two sisters(i am only assuming they were jws they could have been studies or relatives of jws) walking arm and arm like a married couple.

some of the jws looked at them like they had horns.

some of the jws moms were covering their small children's eyes and those two women were stared at like they had the plague.

FlyingHighNow

I had a friend who had a beautiful, vivacious, middle-aged mother. She was Greek in heritage, with dark hair and big dark eyes, aging very gracefully. She was full of life and joy, the kind who had the entire Greyhound bus load singing songs on her trip from San Diego to Andrews, Texas. She had been a pioneer, if I remember correctly, with an elder husband and wonderfully raised grown up kids and a couple of grandkids.

Darned if one day my friend didn't confess that her mother had been disfellowshipped. She explained that her mom had fallen in love with her lady Bible student and moved out of her home and into the student's home. Wow.

A cute story about my friend's mother. Back in the 1950s, she was pregnant. She was standing on a street corner in San Diego, when a car slowed down and a man said, "Awwww, I know what you've been doing!!!" My friend said her mother stood there and cried, she was so embarrassed. Remember, it was during the 1950s that Lucille Ball was not allowed to say she was pregnant on the I Love Lucy show.

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Posters do you know of any cases where a devout JW was DF'd for Lesbianism?

by booker-t in

i think this is a hush hush topic among jws but i remember years ago at an assembly i saw two sisters(i am only assuming they were jws they could have been studies or relatives of jws) walking arm and arm like a married couple.

some of the jws looked at them like they had horns.

some of the jws moms were covering their small children's eyes and those two women were stared at like they had the plague.

FlyingHighNow

Yes.