A spanking is, in my mind, a series of hits. This are usually, but not always, done by an angry parent
I do agree children should not be hit out of anger.
That is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you think that you cannot even try to reason with a seven-year-old, he will become unreasonable
It's not that I don't ever try to reason with him. But there are times, when even reasoning does not work with him. Hard headed might be the best way to describe my one son.
You are comparing two adults with an adult and a child
The only reason I used this, was because you said that parents do to children, what they would not do to someone bigger.
Sometimes parents hit or spank their children to look good to others so that it seems that they discipline their children, when in reality those children are undisciplined because they will only behave well in front of their parents because they fear them.
I disagree with you here. My children are well behaved when not infront of me. Here is an example. We had my grandfather living with us. October he got really sick. While he was in the hospital, a neighbor cared for my children so I could see about my grandfather. When I picked them up, she told me how well behaved they were. They worked together, and helped her with the care of my 3 yo and her own 2 & 4 yo. She said she could watch them eveyday that my grandfather was in the hospital. She did for 4 days, and they were good the whole time. My children do not fear me in the sense they are afraid of pain. They do fear disapointing me. I have a son, who is 12. If he does something wrong, and I say I am disapointed, he will cry. That boy has never had a swat in his life. Nor has he been screamed at, or belittled. I think screaming, belittling, or name calling is much worse than a swat on the bottom.imho I know we don't see eye to eye on this topic. I do think if you see someone spanking their child, and you call the police that is great. If a parent does not have the self control, and spanks in public over something, they usually do worse at home.
