Posts by reboot

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What is your outlook on life now?

by Puternut in

jw
friends

just curious to see, how some of you who have been out recently, or out for a very long time, have gone on with your outlook on life.

do you still believe in the bible?

do you still cling to some of the 'old' teachings?

reboot

hi Puternut; I hav'nt got any religion in my life at the moment- and the WT took away any urge for it.

Just don't feel I need it.I did look into other churches to begin with but decided the very existance of god was the missing piece, so there seemed no point.... I'm enjoying my children and my art and living- I like the saying, ' Live each day like it's your last, but as though you'll live forever...'

I used to feel guilty for not believing in a god anymore, but if it is so important that we find him surely he could do away with all the searching, wondering and anguish people seem to have to go through to find him and put a dirty great sign in the sky that says, ' I'm real and this is what I want you to do...?'

I love the feeling of being free to develop new friendships; being allowed to be open and kind to anyone you want makes life snowball.I don't know what the future holds for me and i'm not always happy, but at least i'll always have my new and old, non-jw, non- judgemental friends to share it with.

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Movies you are ashamed to admit you HATED!

by gilwarrior in

for me i am ashamed to admit that i hated "black hawk down.".

everybody told me that is was this great millitary movie.

i know that it was based on real life, but i was so bored i actually walked out of the movie and i don't do it that often.. also i hated "gladiator.".

reboot

Simon'll probably kick me off the board...but I HATE StarWars...... and Moulin Rouge...... but LOTR, pure escapism..and one of the classics of english literature; Tolkein was a brilliant scholar.My English master went to uni with him and apparently, he only wrote LOTR to try out the languages he created, Elvish etc...though i'll grant you the Ents looked crap...

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Names you would never give your child

by Nosferatu in

jw
friends

okay, everyone list names you'd never give to your child.

here's mine:.

eggbert.

reboot

This made me think about an article about names African witness parents had given their children, on the back page of the awake a few years ago and how they were showing their faith by giving them WT literature based names. They were named liked the key words kids would highlight in the Watchtower to stave off mind numbing boredom....'Paradise', ' Kingdom' ,'Hope ' , 'Steadfast', 'Zeal'', Prize', Rapidgrowth etc-ok ; I made that last one up... lisavgas..... Armageddon..??thats awful!!

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Are you a people person or a loner?

by Strawberryfieldsforever in

jw
friends

i've heard that there are people who thrive on being with people.

they gain energy from it.

then there are the loners who gain energy from being alone.

reboot

I think I may have a dual personality

it depends how i'm feeling-if my life's going well I become more and more confident and sociable; I love to be with people and will talk to anyone....I like seeing people opening up and getting animated, getting to know them...I'm tactile and very sociable at college, switching 'on' as soon as I get there, and when out with friends everyone tells me how they can't imagine me being intimidated by anyone or anything...lol.

i'm also very easily hurt, shy, think people talk to me to be 'kind', pathetically insecure;and regularily crave my own company; on a quiet day I love nothing more than a fire, a good book and silence.

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would you hit a woman if she hit you first? (for men)

by pudd in

i would like to as the men on the board a question.

if your wife/partner were to slap you during an argument, would you feel that if you were you to hit back it would make you equal?.

we all know that violance, no matter how minor is wrong, but this is a question about equality.

reboot

(((sorry if that came across badly, Shera))) Im crap at this posting-thing sometimes

I was'nt having a go......forgive me??

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would you hit a woman if she hit you first? (for men)

by pudd in

i would like to as the men on the board a question.

if your wife/partner were to slap you during an argument, would you feel that if you were you to hit back it would make you equal?.

we all know that violance, no matter how minor is wrong, but this is a question about equality.

reboot

no! shera wasnt at all- thats why i started my post with a hugjust don't want the thread to get confused with another form of abuse.

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would you hit a woman if she hit you first? (for men)

by pudd in

i would like to as the men on the board a question.

if your wife/partner were to slap you during an argument, would you feel that if you were you to hit back it would make you equal?.

we all know that violance, no matter how minor is wrong, but this is a question about equality.

reboot

There is self defense and self defense. If a woman is in serious danger, too right you would hit hard were it hurts, but is it not also a form of self defense when the man you love has you pinned in a corner, being verbaly abusive? if he refuses to let her go, and is being threatening in his behavior while i am not saying she should have slapped him, but i am saying it was understandable.

I was also responding to this.The question that is being asked very clearly is defining more and more as the thread progresses- as my answers are also trying to.This is very upsetting for me and im sorry if it's coming across badly- but people MUST understand the difference between being labelled as 'violent' by a lunatic when you're acting in self defence cos youre scared.

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would you hit a woman if she hit you first? (for men)

by pudd in

i would like to as the men on the board a question.

if your wife/partner were to slap you during an argument, would you feel that if you were you to hit back it would make you equal?.

we all know that violance, no matter how minor is wrong, but this is a question about equality.

reboot

there was no recognition of the difference in strenght. in addition, in the event in question, his girlfriend had only slapped him because he had her pinned against a wall, yelling at her.

((little witch and avishai)) I was also responding to this above - which was a few posts down also written by Pudd;and I did read the whole thread , really carefully- just tryingto get it bak on track as some hav'nt and are confusing it with spousal abuse.

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would you hit a woman if she hit you first? (for men)

by pudd in

i would like to as the men on the board a question.

if your wife/partner were to slap you during an argument, would you feel that if you were you to hit back it would make you equal?.

we all know that violance, no matter how minor is wrong, but this is a question about equality.

reboot

((shera)) the point of the thread's getting lost in translation.

We're talking about a man who has a woman cornered,who is physically and verbally abusing her , scaring her, using his strength to keep her where he wants her; intimidating her and threatening her.This is'nt spousal abuse-it's a woman trying to get him off her in desperation; and it's frightening.

Obviously if a woman hits a man for no reason she is an abusive wife-but that's not what this thread's about. i'm amazed at the number of men on here who think this is either something to joke about or who feel if they were physically threatening a woman and she's trying to get him off then their violence is allowable.

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follow on question.

by pudd in

i would like to thank all who have replied to my quesstion about hitting back at woman.

i would like to ask a further question about this situation.

some have surgested that my friends girlfriend acted in self defense when she slapped him because he was pinning her in a corner and yelling.

reboot

I wonder whether the men who feel they would be justified in hitting a woman after she acted in self defense were men who grew up with violence.

Perhaps it's a learned reaction, that appears in emotionally fraught situations because they've seen it and believe it's an accaptable way of dealing with women. If it is-they're not blameless;but need to admit they have a problem and perhaps look at anger management. Anyone can see the damage that can be done by an angry man means that the odds are stacked unfairly against the woman.The time I decided to fight back with all my strength resulted in total paralising shock when I realised I coud'nt actually do ANYTHING. I nearly died.