Posts by ToesUp

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2.16.2017 NJ Star-Ledger Ad: "Were you sexually abused by the Jehovahs Witnesses?"

by breakfast of champions in

my wife found this 1/4 page ad on page 2 of yesterday's nj star-ledger, probably the biggest newspaper in nj.

pretty telling.. .

ToesUp

"PERSECUTION HAS STARTED!" LOL

You're right...this is HUGE!

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i can't even remember what got me interested in pans, probably wanting to try cooking more and watching some cooking videos on youtube, but i kind of started wanting to get a cast-iron skillet specifically so started reading up on them.

hey, if you're going to spend $50 on something you need to study them and create a comparison spreadsheet ... right?.

not only did cast-iron look great for cooking but there are some studies that show risks to aluminium / teflon cookware ... not that the wts was "right" about aluminium, but teflon can give off carcinogenic chemicals if overheated (so what if it chips off into your food?).

ToesUp

Simon, Love our cast iron pan. We have a Lodge outlet store nearby so I can only tell you my experience.

The store clerk was very knowledgeable. Told us to how to clean the pan and re-season the pan, etc.

!.) Told us to re-season the pan by cooking a pack of bacon.

2.) Clean the pan using a stiff kitchen dish / pan brush. Using only hot water. Wipe dry with a towel.

3.) Use a metal spatula to flip your food. Keep it flat against the bottom of the pan, so you do not create groves in the bottom of the seasoning layer.

4.) After cleaning...Use olive oil to lightly oil the pan after use.

5.) Told us to never cook with only tomatoes or tomato sauce for extended periods (simmer for hours). It can remove the pans seasoning coating and the sauce can taste metallic.

6.) If using on an electric stove top (glass top). Never go above med-high. Never slide the pan on a glass top range.

So, after following these tips. We have had great success with our pan over the past 5 years.

Look forward to hearing some more tips. You tube has some great videos too.

Mr. Toesup

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Has your name or reputation been maligned by the Witness gossip-mill?

by stuckinarut2 in

as we all know, witnesses routinely share in gossiping, slandering or maligning the name and reputation of those who are "spiritually weak" or ones who "fade" or "stop associating".. they feel it is ok to speak badly of such ones who "have left jehovah's organization".. of course, some of the worst perpetrators of this are elders and their wives, who insidiously plant negative stories in the minds of all they interact with in the congregation.

they may never have actual facts, but since when do facts matter to witnesses?

however through such conduct they manage to separate people from one another, or cause rifts amongst former friends.. this sort of conduct is plainly inappropriate.. but what scriptures could be used if the opportunity arose to confront such ones about the way they have behaved?.

ToesUp

Yes...I am sure the gossipers have had their say about me and my family. The thing is...We don't care anymore! We are free, they are stuck in a cult. Ha ha...sucks to be them!

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Finally, after almost 3 years, they want to visit with me

by StarTrekAngel in

so i ended up going to the meeting yesterday.

i have been absent for almost 2 months.

my wife was also absent as long but mostly out of chance.

ToesUp

Star

You guys handled that great!

After they showed you the videos you should have asked them..."now can we show you a video?" You could have then showed them the ARC videos. Can you imagine the looks on their faces. You know the saying, "turnabout is fair play." lol

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attended funeral.

by zeb in

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friends

to show respects for the older bro who died.. first thing i noticed.

the noise!..

jw never learn to sit and do so quietly.

ToesUp

The JW funeral is just..." a witness to the community." 99.9% about the cult and .01% about the person. UNLESS....the deceased was a wealthy/big hitter in WT land. Seen that before! There talk is ALL about how much they "contributed" ($$$$) to WT (aka Jehovah).

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One Big Family... Except For When You Need Them

by pale.emperor in

when i was in, we all used to claim us jw's were "one big family" all around the world, and how we're the happiest people on the earth.

except that isnt true is it?

i knew that when i was in, but i've just had some news which shows me how unloving, uncaring and un-family like they really are.. my ex-best friend (he has to shun me doesn't he?

ToesUp

Yes...that is the main reason we left. The complete lack of love and care for others. When we went through a period of unemployment/under employment, we got nothing. Not even an encouraging word from the Elders. We had to take on employment in the evenings and weekends. The only thing we got was the Elders asking why we were missing meetings. If you're not doing the tasks, you are weak and not worth the time of day.

Wow....freedom is a breath of fresh air!

We are back on track at the moment and enjoying life. Not a dime going to WT!

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baptised nearly 51 years

by Phoebe in

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been reading this site for awhile now.

i have had a long and often tragic life as a jw.

my story is so long because i'm pretty old :) i feel sad i've been locked in fear and guilt for my entire life.

ToesUp

Welcome Phoebe. You have been through so much. I wish I could hug you.

Flipper is right, you are among friends here. There are so many who have scars that the WT has left on them.

The comment that you made regarding your husband. "He kept saying 'there's something wrong with it' " I had the same thing running through my head most of my life. My spouse and I left WT 3+ years ago for lack of love and once we learned TTATT, it was over for us. We will never return. The abuse and lies are just too much.

I am so happy that you received the professional help. What your Brother did to you is unforgivable. He knows what he did and it scares him that you will come forward. What a coward.

Lean on those who love you. We are here for you and feel free to come on here anytime to vent. There are some really wonderful folks on here. It has helped me tremendously, kind of like a therapy. Hugs to you my dear!

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Is it OK for JW employees to sell lottery tickets?

by Iamallcool in

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i do remember reading an article that it is not ok for jw to sell cigarettes at gas stations, etc... i was wondering what about lottery tickets?

they do sell lottery tickets at few restaurants around my home.

if jw works there and rats me out to the elders, i would not give a damn about it but i still prefer not to hear from the elders about it..

ToesUp

"If someone played the lottery and won, and donated the money to the society, would they accept it and would he be disfellowshipped?"

WT will accept anything in the form of checks, money orders, cash, credit cards, gifts, estates, etc. They could care less where it comes from as long as THEY can benefit from it. They will just do what they do best...SWEEP IT ALL UNDER THE RUG!! Money flows one way in Watchtower land...in THEIR POCKETS!

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Life is changing for me: no pioneering, got a job!

by Skepsis in

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a month ago i decided to register in this board.

i had decided to step down pioneering but was frightened about the consequences.

i had finished my university degree some months before (despite disaproval from brothers in my congregation) and i had to choose: continue pioneering and working in jobs with no future or starting a career, working full-time.. i was thinking to postpone the decisiton but... i was fed up with preaching.

ToesUp

"I guess what I'm saying is that even if you have doubts as to god's existence, they will not DF you, and they will be perfectly willing to have you "step down." However, if you express doubts as to the BORG, you're out."

It's interesting in WT land that you can question the existence of God and nothing happens but as soon as you question the org...you're out. Really tells you a lot about this cult!

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Life is changing for me: no pioneering, got a job!

by Skepsis in

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friends

a month ago i decided to register in this board.

i had decided to step down pioneering but was frightened about the consequences.

i had finished my university degree some months before (despite disaproval from brothers in my congregation) and i had to choose: continue pioneering and working in jobs with no future or starting a career, working full-time.. i was thinking to postpone the decisiton but... i was fed up with preaching.

ToesUp

Another question...those Elders that are telling you not to quit, are they themselves full time pioneering and working a full time job?

We have a family member who has 5 kids and had to work additional hours to support his large family. He was an elder and wanted to step down. The Body of elders tried talking him out of it. He asked the brothers if they would chip in to help support his large family. Guess what? They did not push it further. This family member is no longer a JW. He saw the abuse this organization lays upon its member and exited. His children and wife wife are all out too.

Ask the Body of Elders to help with your finances and see what kind of response you get. lol Tell them you can remain a pioneer and continue with your responsibilities IF they help support you. That is one thing WT and it's members will never do....HELP YOU. They may bring a meal over when you need it but will never really HELP YOU. It's amazing!