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  by Esmeralda001 in

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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  I just wanted to add to my spouses comment above (we share the account).

  Tenacious pretty much said what I would have also written. You have to let these people know that their questions are getting a bit much. Don't be afraid to respectfully tell these ones that you just don't feel comfortable with the multiple questions (especially the questions on your private life). We had a couple in our hall that would dig for information. It's amazing when you put boundaries on these ones, they don't quite know what to do, but as Tenacious said above let these ones know that you are not a push over just because you are studying. If they know you will give up info and are an easy target for gossip, they will run with it. Don't be afraid to start your sentences out, "with all due respect, I am starting to feel uncomfortable with all the intrusive questions. Please respect my privacy and stop it." What are they going to say? It may embarrass them but who cares, they don't have any issue with asking you a million and one questions.
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  by Esmeralda001 in

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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  One way to stop a person from asking too many questions. Once they ask you a question. Ask them a few uncomfortable questions. Such as, how much Money do you make each year? How much alcohol do you drink at one time? How many hours do you average each month in field service ? Hopefully, they will get the point. Or just tell them you would rather not discuss certain subjects.
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  New Witness video "Do not visit Witness dating sites" be happy single. Sick Horror!

  by Witness 007 in

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  after the sunday meeting an over zealous young elder encourages the cong.

  with a 2 hour clips from jw.org!

  one video showed a young sister battling loneliness not able to find a mate in her hall or area.

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  They should just make a video titled, "Don't enjoy your life." That's all this cult does is discourage anything that makes you happy...no kids...no college...no dating...don't buy a home...don't have a good job...don't better yourself...don't...don't...don't!

  Glad to be free and enjoying life with NO judgement!
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  Governing body member has Nervous breakdown due to Bethel pressure!!! Sad.

  by Witness 007 in

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  watchtower life story of karl klien governing body was very sad.

  clearly shows the pressure to do more.

  baptized at 12 years old he became a teenage elder.

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  "It basically tells us all 3 of our leaders Rutherford Franz and Knorr were pushy insensitive bully bastards."

  Nothing new and nothing has changed. They are all bullies. The majority of the Co's and Elders are bullies. They learned from THE BEST. The brothers who have some compassion are fewer and fewer. It is sad!

  One of the MANY reasons we are GONE FOR GOOD! LACK OF LOVE IS FRONT AND CENTER!
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  Branch in Rome is organizing a Pioneer School for Bethelites next year.

  by Anakin in

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  according to the italian website: proclamatori consapevoli (a independent website from jw's, proposing new reforms to the gb ), a trusted member, told that next year in 2016, the bethel in rome, will organize a pioneer school, for bethelites, who are asked to leave bethel, so that they could be equipped for their new assignments as regular pioneers in territory, they will be assigned.. .

  if you choose, for the pioneer service, when asked to leave, then they are asked to assist at that pioneer school... personal note: i would make a good smile, and tell them on a diplomatic way like they did, with the bethelites they dumped), that i have other plans at this point of my life, and then leave, without regrets...

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  In order to keep a "title". Initially many of them will except the pioneer assignments. Over time the reality and necessity to earn money will hit them. They will have to find employment in order to make ends meet. Unless they are financially subsidized (place to live, job provided by a JW, etc...) by friends and family. They will have to reduce their time pioneering or quit all together. As time passes, the congregation will forget that they were Bethelites.
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  Thrown out to the wolves!

  by Pandx in

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  (2. after offering prayer without the disfellow-shipped person present, invite him into the room.

  ) i needed answers to as why the elders would not pray when they talked to me in the room.

  3 letters have been sent to get reinstated and all denied and forgotten!

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  So sorry to hear you have been hurt. It's tough being kicked to the curb. I had it done by one of my closest family members. It sucks.

  You have received some great advise on here. It's an eye opening experience to realize there is NO holy spirit and these guys just want power over you. It's a Mother may I game, getting reinstated. We had a family member DF'd for 2 years and she practically had to grovel to get reinstated.

  Keep reading COC and learning what is behind the ugly curtain. This has been a great site for me. I don't feel all alone and it reassures me that I am not the only one feeling the way I do.

  Keep us posted.
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  HOMECOMING (The story of two people I met in a bar)

  by Terry in

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  homecoming.

  my good friend bob and i usually try to get together on friday to listen to live music someplace and decompress from the week's pressures.

  robby knew betty back in high school.

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  Terry, you have a wonderful gift! Great story, thanks for sharing.
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  A question .....

  by Landy in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  hi guys - new poster here.

  i was brought up a jw in the uk and stopped going not long after i was married.

  that was 20 years ago so i'm not really up to date with the current doctrinal flip flops or the new youtube obsessed gb.. came across this site while googling the name of a local elder who's just been convicted of possesion of a pc full of unpleasant pics of kids.. so, my question.

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  I couldn't do it anymore. I could not sit in the Kingdom Hall for 1 more meeting but some on here have so many close by family members. I feel for those ones. It's tough to go through. The sad part is, that NO ONE should have to go through this. The most descriptive statement made by the Australian Royal Commission was...this is a captive organization. It is!
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  We would love to have you back

  by NVR2L8 in

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  one of the businesses i cover is owned by jws and the father and 2 sons knew me as an active brother until 3 years ago when i told one of them i no longer attend the meeting.

  today the father and one of the sons asked me if i was still inactive.

  i told them it has been more than 5 years since i last been at a meeting.

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  "We would love to have you back. Oh yeah, and we accept, cash, checks, wills & Mastercard, Visa, American Express or debit cards."
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  Pic on FB

  by InChristAlone in

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  so one of my facebook friends posted this today.. .

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  Funny C3PO is a robot...how fitting. lol