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  by Esmeralda001 in

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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  Be careful Esmeralda001, these people seem REALLY up in your business. I don't want to see you get hurt but unfortunately that is probably in your future. You have to ask yourself why these people need to know so much about you. We spent our entire lives in this organization (50 years) and it won't get better. My advice...get out before you get hurt or are so deep in you can't escape.

  Read Cognac's post about Forgiveness. This is how people in this organization treat even there closest family members. Something is seriously wrong here. Ask yourself the question, would Jehovah and Jesus treat others with a blatant lack of love. Even to the point of totally ignoring someone, as if they never existed. Google the Physiological effects of shunning and see what the experts say about how this form of abuse and bullying effects a person for a lifetime.
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  New Witness video "Do not visit Witness dating sites" be happy single. Sick Horror!

  by Witness 007 in

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  after the sunday meeting an over zealous young elder encourages the cong.

  with a 2 hour clips from jw.org!

  one video showed a young sister battling loneliness not able to find a mate in her hall or area.

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  We had a MS in our old hall let it slip that he visits these sites. Problem is...he's married. Hmmmm!
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  Fade update...

  by StarTrekAngel in

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  i have attended only one meeting in the past 3 weeks.

  i know there is no way to leave this cult fast enough, but is my fade too fast?

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  You can never fade too fast. You will eventually be on someones radar. Like Billy said, it all depends on the problems the elders are dealing with or they will only call on you when the CO makes his rounds or the memorial is coming up.
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  so whats with the dresses

  by Sabin in

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  so here is the thing, i love trousers/pants always have even as a kid i was such a tom boy, always up trees, covered in mud, skate boarding you know the adhd type (basically off my tree out of control) as i got older i still liked my trousers, it's what i'm comfortable in that & p.j's.

  i love my p.j's.

  so i hated that every time i went to the hall i had to wear a stupid skirt.

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  I'm with you. Since I left 3 years ago, no more skirts for me. Sweatpants and flip flops for this one! Rock on!
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  by Esmeralda001 in

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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  ToesUp

  I like Sabin's answer! She kicks ass.
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  by Esmeralda001 in

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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  I just wanted to add to my spouses comment above (we share the account).

  Tenacious pretty much said what I would have also written. You have to let these people know that their questions are getting a bit much. Don't be afraid to respectfully tell these ones that you just don't feel comfortable with the multiple questions (especially the questions on your private life). We had a couple in our hall that would dig for information. It's amazing when you put boundaries on these ones, they don't quite know what to do, but as Tenacious said above let these ones know that you are not a push over just because you are studying. If they know you will give up info and are an easy target for gossip, they will run with it. Don't be afraid to start your sentences out, "with all due respect, I am starting to feel uncomfortable with all the intrusive questions. Please respect my privacy and stop it." What are they going to say? It may embarrass them but who cares, they don't have any issue with asking you a million and one questions.
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  by Esmeralda001 in

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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  One way to stop a person from asking too many questions. Once they ask you a question. Ask them a few uncomfortable questions. Such as, how much Money do you make each year? How much alcohol do you drink at one time? How many hours do you average each month in field service ? Hopefully, they will get the point. Or just tell them you would rather not discuss certain subjects.
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  New Witness video "Do not visit Witness dating sites" be happy single. Sick Horror!

  by Witness 007 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  after the sunday meeting an over zealous young elder encourages the cong.

  with a 2 hour clips from jw.org!

  one video showed a young sister battling loneliness not able to find a mate in her hall or area.

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  They should just make a video titled, "Don't enjoy your life." That's all this cult does is discourage anything that makes you happy...no kids...no college...no dating...don't buy a home...don't have a good job...don't better yourself...don't...don't...don't!

  Glad to be free and enjoying life with NO judgement!
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  Governing body member has Nervous breakdown due to Bethel pressure!!! Sad.

  by Witness 007 in

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  watchtower life story of karl klien governing body was very sad.

  clearly shows the pressure to do more.

  baptized at 12 years old he became a teenage elder.

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  "It basically tells us all 3 of our leaders Rutherford Franz and Knorr were pushy insensitive bully bastards."

  Nothing new and nothing has changed. They are all bullies. The majority of the Co's and Elders are bullies. They learned from THE BEST. The brothers who have some compassion are fewer and fewer. It is sad!

  One of the MANY reasons we are GONE FOR GOOD! LACK OF LOVE IS FRONT AND CENTER!
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  Branch in Rome is organizing a Pioneer School for Bethelites next year.

  by Anakin in

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  according to the italian website: proclamatori consapevoli (a independent website from jw's, proposing new reforms to the gb ), a trusted member, told that next year in 2016, the bethel in rome, will organize a pioneer school, for bethelites, who are asked to leave bethel, so that they could be equipped for their new assignments as regular pioneers in territory, they will be assigned.. .

  if you choose, for the pioneer service, when asked to leave, then they are asked to assist at that pioneer school... personal note: i would make a good smile, and tell them on a diplomatic way like they did, with the bethelites they dumped), that i have other plans at this point of my life, and then leave, without regrets...

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  In order to keep a "title". Initially many of them will except the pioneer assignments. Over time the reality and necessity to earn money will hit them. They will have to find employment in order to make ends meet. Unless they are financially subsidized (place to live, job provided by a JW, etc...) by friends and family. They will have to reduce their time pioneering or quit all together. As time passes, the congregation will forget that they were Bethelites.