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  My daughter surprised me last night.

  by Driving Force in

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  i started my fade a the beginning of 2015, took counseling form a psychiatrist, and worked hard to get my family away from the cult.

  my marriage split and i now live alone with my 15 year old daughter.. she came to me last night and we started talking about jws.

  she told me that the subject they are discussing at the moment in philosophy is "cults".

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  Driving Force...you have a very intelligent daughter there.

  It's funny, when I just started to wake up, I Goggled the word cults and the same thing happened to me. I said to my spouse, "this describes our religion (cult) to a tee."
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  Morning all! Just here to say hi and join in the discussion

  by park ave boy in

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  i'm happy to join every ex-jw.borg site i can and support in whatever way i can.

  i now regularly donate to these sites when available.

  i'm bitter but i don't hate jws because they were brainwashed like we all were.

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  Most don't seem to know about the child abuse issues. We spoke to some family (still ins/uber) that did not know anything about the Australian Royal Commission. We let them know. You know JW's they have to know EVERYTHING. Unfortunately, most will shut their eyes to it and lap up everything the Mother ship says and does.

  Welcome to the forum!
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  by Esmeralda001 in

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  2. experiences

  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  Be careful Esmeralda001, these people seem REALLY up in your business. I don't want to see you get hurt but unfortunately that is probably in your future. You have to ask yourself why these people need to know so much about you. We spent our entire lives in this organization (50 years) and it won't get better. My advice...get out before you get hurt or are so deep in you can't escape.

  Read Cognac's post about Forgiveness. This is how people in this organization treat even there closest family members. Something is seriously wrong here. Ask yourself the question, would Jehovah and Jesus treat others with a blatant lack of love. Even to the point of totally ignoring someone, as if they never existed. Google the Physiological effects of shunning and see what the experts say about how this form of abuse and bullying effects a person for a lifetime.
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  New Witness video "Do not visit Witness dating sites" be happy single. Sick Horror!

  by Witness 007 in

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  after the sunday meeting an over zealous young elder encourages the cong.

  with a 2 hour clips from jw.org!

  one video showed a young sister battling loneliness not able to find a mate in her hall or area.

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  We had a MS in our old hall let it slip that he visits these sites. Problem is...he's married. Hmmmm!
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  Fade update...

  by StarTrekAngel in

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  i have attended only one meeting in the past 3 weeks.

  i know there is no way to leave this cult fast enough, but is my fade too fast?

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  You can never fade too fast. You will eventually be on someones radar. Like Billy said, it all depends on the problems the elders are dealing with or they will only call on you when the CO makes his rounds or the memorial is coming up.
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  so whats with the dresses

  by Sabin in

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  so here is the thing, i love trousers/pants always have even as a kid i was such a tom boy, always up trees, covered in mud, skate boarding you know the adhd type (basically off my tree out of control) as i got older i still liked my trousers, it's what i'm comfortable in that & p.j's.

  i love my p.j's.

  so i hated that every time i went to the hall i had to wear a stupid skirt.

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  I'm with you. Since I left 3 years ago, no more skirts for me. Sweatpants and flip flops for this one! Rock on!
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  by Esmeralda001 in

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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  I like Sabin's answer! She kicks ass.
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  by Esmeralda001 in

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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  I just wanted to add to my spouses comment above (we share the account).

  Tenacious pretty much said what I would have also written. You have to let these people know that their questions are getting a bit much. Don't be afraid to respectfully tell these ones that you just don't feel comfortable with the multiple questions (especially the questions on your private life). We had a couple in our hall that would dig for information. It's amazing when you put boundaries on these ones, they don't quite know what to do, but as Tenacious said above let these ones know that you are not a push over just because you are studying. If they know you will give up info and are an easy target for gossip, they will run with it. Don't be afraid to start your sentences out, "with all due respect, I am starting to feel uncomfortable with all the intrusive questions. Please respect my privacy and stop it." What are they going to say? It may embarrass them but who cares, they don't have any issue with asking you a million and one questions.
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  by Esmeralda001 in

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  i need some advice guys.

  how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.

  i was invited to a jw gathering last night.

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  One way to stop a person from asking too many questions. Once they ask you a question. Ask them a few uncomfortable questions. Such as, how much Money do you make each year? How much alcohol do you drink at one time? How many hours do you average each month in field service ? Hopefully, they will get the point. Or just tell them you would rather not discuss certain subjects.
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  New Witness video "Do not visit Witness dating sites" be happy single. Sick Horror!

  by Witness 007 in

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  after the sunday meeting an over zealous young elder encourages the cong.

  with a 2 hour clips from jw.org!

  one video showed a young sister battling loneliness not able to find a mate in her hall or area.

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  ToesUp

  They should just make a video titled, "Don't enjoy your life." That's all this cult does is discourage anything that makes you happy...no kids...no college...no dating...don't buy a home...don't have a good job...don't better yourself...don't...don't...don't!

  Glad to be free and enjoying life with NO judgement!