Lack of love and concern is what shook us awake. For years I told my spouse, "something is just not right." Once you see WT for what it is , you can not unsee it. Love and concern is either there or it's not. We have been married for many years and I have NEVER had the feeling of not being cared about in our marriage. We don't buy the JW's line, "the organization is made up of imperfect men." That is a cop out! If I went to the Elders with a sin that I committed, they would interrogate me, DF or reprove me and then announce my name from the platform (humiliate me). There is NO...."well, we'll let it slide, he/she is just an imperfect person." No free pass for me. If the congregation has to be kept clean by disciplining me, when will the congregation be "kept clean" from these imperfect men who are free to plow over everyone's life? I see a pattern of Watchtower wanting their cake and eating it too.