You don’t have to say anything. Just let them know you are fine and if you need them, you will contact them. They will eventually leave you alone. Not going to the meetings is a no no but if you don’t want to look like a apostate (even though you are) just be quiet and leave. Unfortunately you can not take your conditional friends with you. There is really no easy way to leave but you can fade quietly. We did but lost all of our so called friends. It’s ok, we are much happier out than we were in. It is sooooo worth it!
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33How To Fade Away Cleanly?
by SplaneThisToMe inthis is my first post and hopefully i can get some advice and input.
i have been actively involved with the organization for a little over 10 years now.
i began studying in high school, got baptized and my family fortunately did not.
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Facebook warning
by The Real Edward Gentry inbe very careful who you "friend" on facebook.people are facing judicial hearings for things they have posted online.so unless you are a real goody two shoes, be careful who you friend and beware of entrapment conversations designed to have you reveal your personal habits or even opinions.happy hollidays.
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ToesUp
Yes...Jehovah’s loving people never miss an opportunity to narc on their brothers and sisters.
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"Slaving For Jehovah Is Great, Because Your Life Won't Go Wrong." Sigh...
by Sorry ingranted, i'm a pimo status, so i normally just play on my cell phone and ignore everything during meetings and assemblies.
but at the assembly this past weekend, my ears were pricked for two experiences of two sisters dedicating themselves to pioneering.
this was probably because i was extremely freaked out by both of them.
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Remember Jehovah is the organization. So they are slaving for an organization. They don’t have a problem with that....UNTIL they hit 60, 70 or 80. Unless they were given an inheritance or they have a large pension, most JW’s in that age bracket are starting to wonder how they will financially survive until death. We are watching it with our very own family. They have “slaved” for Watchtower and are now struggling to survive.
Most in that audience blindly accepted it because they are hearing the “scripted interview.” They “tweek” those interviews to the CO’s satisfaction. We actually sat through an interview at an assembly, with 2 of our congregation members. Our jaws hit the floor when we heard it. It was a total fabrication and so far from the truth. Most in the audience thought it was great, but we knew the true story. In the real world we call that fabrication or if you want to be real, it’s just pure lying. Watchtower is great at it.
Slaving for something or someone means giving to much energy and time to someone or something. These ones are definitely slaving for Watchtower. If these ones ever needed help from Watchtower, would they be there to help? Just ask all of the Bethelites they have laid off. The ones who would slave for Watchtower right into the new system. Yeah right!!
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Jehovah's Witnesses face legal / Financial Penalties in Court. NBC San Diego
by ToesUp innbc news san diego news video.
jehovah's witnesses face legal / financial penalties in court.. san diego nbc news video.
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NBC News San Diego News Video
Jehovah's Witnesses face legal / Financial Penalties in Court.
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...and so the shunning begins
by Phoebe ini am now officially 'inactive' so am no longer chased by an elder a for a report.
the congregation i belonged to never had much time for me anyway, i said once i could drop down dead in the k.hall and no one would notice.
so i never expected anyone to be particularly bothered that i wasn't there and they aren't.
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Like dozy said above. They “heard” you no longer attend. They don’t know if it is true or not but just remove themselves from your life. No confirmation that the news is true. Just silence. This happened to us as well. For an organization that spends countless hours knocking on empty doors or aimlessly standing by a cart that no one approaches, they seem to just disappear from the ones they could try to encourage. They show their true colors.
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...and so the shunning begins
by Phoebe ini am now officially 'inactive' so am no longer chased by an elder a for a report.
the congregation i belonged to never had much time for me anyway, i said once i could drop down dead in the k.hall and no one would notice.
so i never expected anyone to be particularly bothered that i wasn't there and they aren't.
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Phoebe
My story mimics yours to a tee. I have lost countless “friends.” You wouldn’t be human if it didn’t hurt. It does. Where else on earth are you treated this way? It is barbaric behavior.
My spouse and I have a saying, “we only want people in our lives who WANT to be there. “ We have let others know that we love them and are still here. If they don’t want it, they can move along. We are still caring, kind and loving people.
We have some close friends and family that have distanced themselves and that is their choice. We have to respect that decision just like we want respect. It’s tough sometimes.
Sorry that you are going through this.
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Family events(when you actually get invited)
by Jayk init's hard for me to go to any event with witness family i havent seen in a long time..i have a pretty personal story that i don't care to share but since the incident, my mom's family stopped talking to me..when i go to family events everything feels fake.
i feel like i did something wrong and i'm around people who i'm not good enough to be around.
i went over five years recently not talking to my family (brothers/mom)after my divorce.
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Family events suck. We never felt “good enough” either. We weren’t invited to most events when we where still in. My spouse wasn’t a servant and I wasn’t a pioneer. No titles....no recognition in the cult. Much happier now! Now we truly enjoy our time and money.
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Im new to the site. 28 years old, over 10 in exile. This is my story
by Jayk init's bitter sweet to find a site like this..i was born in the truth.
when i was 16 i given the option to stop going.
father and mothers family are both witnesses.
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Welcome Jayk!
Most on this forum are where you are now. Like Flipper said, the shunning is NOT easy. This is NOT the way our family or loved ones should treat us. It is disturbing. Keep reading, learning and thinking.
We are all here for you! Keep posting, it helps. It has been a form of therapy for me. Like you said..."no one else understands."
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Reveal News Article: Jehovah’s Witnesses double down on Scripture used to ignore abuse by Trey Bundy
by AndersonsInfo inhttps://www.revealnews.org/blog/jehovahs-witnesses-double-down-on-scripture-used-to-ignore-abuse/.
jehovah’s witnesses double down on scripture used to ignore abuse.
by trey bundy / november 9, 2017. gary breaux, a senior jehovah's witness official, speaks on the religion’s official internet video channel.
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Not changing the 2 witness rule just shows what you are dealing with. A true 100% narcissist is a sight to see. These guys are true 100% narcissists. They won’t budge or apologize for anything because they truly believe they are right. Karma is coming for them! Hopefully sooner rather than later and in my lifetime, so I can watch it happen. Oh please....let me be alive to see it happen!!!🥂
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Side effect of Downsizing......$$$
by Tech49 inso here is a tidbit you will all just love!.
we all are hearing of the trend right now to ¨downsize¨ the congregations...ie... eliminate by combining, in order to blah blah blah... .
here is what you didnt know: every time a congregation is dissolved, for whatever reason, including merging or dispersing, wt makes money!
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ToesUp
Tech....that is crazy! Watchtower is really at its lowest. They have no shame. These are the stories that confirm that we made the right decision to exit.