I just read your post to my husband.
You should have looked at the Bible student and said, "you see what he (elder) just did there? This is what you will get, once you commit to this cult. See how encouraging our shepherd was to one of the lost sheep? Love never fails, until you leave the cult. My suggestion to you, run like hell."
These arrogant, self righteous "spiritual men" need to be put in their place. I know, we put several "in their place" before we left. Oh....it felt soooo good!!!